I recently published an article on my website (www.theheroscape.com) about an incident that occurred while I was at the zoo with my little brother. Basically I happened upon a 13 year old kid spitting into the ponds and streams of several exhibits.

Even as I write this, almost a week later, it strikes me how many people were there who saw the same thing I did, but did nothing. It seemed a classic example of the Bystander Effect, a social phenomenon where a person does not offer any assistance or do anything to intervene in a crisis situation because of the presence of others. It seems strange to think that we are less inclined to take action when there are other people around, but studies have proven this to be true. The more 'other people' are present the less likely an individual is to take personal responsibility for doing something.

This wasn't a crisis by any means. But I imagine people were shaking their heads and grumbling about what they saw. "Where are his parents?". "Somebody should do something.".

In my mind "somebody" should have been any adult who noticed. And this incident highlighted one of the failings of our society. Nobody wants to get involved. Nobody wants to take responsibility. If no one intervenes now when his crimes are relatively small, what will happen if this kind of behavior escalates to vandalism or something else? Where will he learn that society will hold him accountable for what he does, which can reinforce one of the foundations of manhood in a boy who is just beginning to discover his strength and power: respect.

It reminds me of the scene in The Dark Knight where Harvey Dent holds a press conference to announce that the Batman has offered to turn himself in. The citizens, even the police officers are scared and they're willing to trade their liberty, their right to a peaceful and just society for a promise of safety. In the bargain is nothing to end crime; and by allowing this they shackle themselves like a woman facing a mugger. "Take what you want," they say. "Just don't hurt me."

A man can't be a bystander and consider himself a man. When others whisper 'someone should do something' he must be the one to spring into action, whether it be alone or with a dozen like minded men at his side. In times of calamity or relative calm, whether fighting for a cause or defending the public trust, a man must act. To do otherwise is to betray all of us.

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Comment by Adam Bauer on October 9, 2011 at 9:25pm

Well put! Agreed, I remember growing up any adult had the right to say somthing if your were up to no good. Today society seems to think "its not my problem" but it is if we make it, and we must make it our issue or society will go downhill even faster.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comment by Cynric Whitaker on October 9, 2011 at 6:42pm
Indeed. And we live in a society that seems to love to judge others for what they done. Maybe that's why reality TV is so popular. Sometimes I wonder if that mentality contributes negatively to our individual desire to stand up for what we believe because being wrong means facing ridicule and judgment.
Comment by Iosephus Lvcs Gonzalez on October 9, 2011 at 6:27pm

So true, Cynric. I feel that we're afraid of being judged as "backwards", "authoritarian", "nosy", or something of that sort, if we stand for what we believe in.

 

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