Sometimes it's pretty hard to find a topic to blog about, but recently I came across a TV show here in Mexico that caught my attention. It talked about how many women today don't want to marry, which struck as a bit of a coincidence, since not so long ago I had read an article in a newspaper that said men, in Mexico, were now more in favor of marriage and children, than women were. It stated that men prefer having children because we, men, see it as a way to continue to spread our genetic matrial as well as our name (I'm paraphresing it quite freely). The show itself, talked about how gender roles were changing and how now women felt more freedom without being tied to a man. Pretty much stuff that has been discussed here before, and will continue to be talked and argued about in the future. One point that actually caught my attention was the fact that past expierences have played a role in shaping a woman opinion of marriage, such as divorce. As I listened to the show I commented to my mother how I was in favor of marriage, and the fact that even if he wasn't a model father or husband, I was pretty aware of who I was. Sure I was raised by him and seen his faults and perhaps learned some of them, but I'm no kid and I'm very sure of who I am as a person. It's intersting how some people might fear marriage based on past expirences, thinking that they might repeat it. It seems to show a certain lack of confidence in a person, they depend on their past not being fully aware of the person they are today.

I'm not and expert on the subject and I really don't know much about relationships, but I know people and I'm certainly learning a lot about the subject, so as to be prepared for when I do have a relationship and ultimately marry.

I'm not saying that marriage is the only way to have a stable relationship or a family, but it seems to me that when people think about it, we still get the idea of the ball and chain. In my opnion it's not so, and I don't think that having a paper that leagalizes the relationship means new or more responabilites, sure perhaps now we work to support a wife and kids, instead of earning money for more selfish reasons. Yes, there are some responsabilies, yet this is perhaps the point where we mature. It's not just about companionship, it's about commiting ourselves to an other human being, it is about unconditional love, where you have someone you can trust and know will be there for support.

In conclusion, it maybe cool to feel free and hang out with friends and not have anything to worry about and not really commit yourself to anyone, but in the end, in my opinion, it might get old and quite lonely.

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Comment by Carlos Infante on December 9, 2010 at 10:23pm

True, but as far as I know, here in Mexico we can go both ways, either people wait a bit longer or they marry extremly young. In the end, though, there really aren't any rules concerning marriage; it all comes down to each individual.

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