If you are looking to find the love of your life on a dating site, then you must be aware of the value of your profile picture. In fact, for many people on these sites the decision to contact or even respond to someone is usually determined by this photograph alone.
You can have many other amazing credentials and achievements but if this picture is not selling you well, you may be out of luck.
Of course we can’t all be supermodels or bronzed Adonis’ but here are a few pointers that will help you make the most of the card you have been dealt.
A study published by economists at MIT and University of Chicago found that women and men that posted photo’s of themselves received twice as many emails as those that didn’t. So don’t be shy, get the camera out!
You may include a group photo amongst other individual portraits if it is something that speaks volumes about your personality, a team photo or playing in a band basically doing something you are passionate about. It is important to post individual photo’s as well, so if you do get lucky and score a date, your prospective suitor knows who they are meeting!
You may have a beautiful furbaby at home but there is little point of posting a pic of your perfect pooch or cute kitty alone. By all means have a picture with them, but it’s not your pet looking for a date, it’s you and if people can’t see what you look like, they will likely think the worst and scroll on by.
We’ve all done it. The filters available on our phones these days are amazing, not to mention the extra apps available where you can make your eyes bigger, teeth whiter , face thinner and skin smoother! It’s great, air brushing at the touch of a button! Of course this is ok for your social media profile pictures, your friends know what you look like and they know you have enhanced your pic (they probably do the same!) But your prospective date will be expecting the same perfection as your dating photo and when you show up, looking entirely different, there may be an air of disappointment, not the ideal atmosphere for a first date!
Of course a slight adjustment is ok, maybe editing the lighting to chrome or transfer this is only slight fakery and no one will know!
You may be guilty of not just editing but also filtering your photos to ensure you are at your best.
It’s just weird! (But you would be surprised how much it happens!) Most people will flick straight past a guy and girl profile picture. If the only good picture you have is with your ex, have it photoshopped! Even posting a pic with a best friend of the opposite sex can be off putting, yes they may be your bestie, but you don’t have time to explain this in your profile and it will put prospective suitors off.
Pictures that are taken at eye level will best show your potential dates what you actually look alike as opposed to an idealized selfie. In fact, matches who view your picture will even feel as though you are sitting across the table from them. Be sure to show that smile.
There’s always a temptation to post your very best photos that were taken by professionals at a special event such as a wedding, where your makeup and hair are on point and you are looking hot! Hot! Hot! Of course include this photo, it is you and you are capable of such beauty, but also include some more natural shots, that way, you won’t be expected to go full glam at every date.
By mixing up your photos, prospective dates are able to relate and have a better idea of what you really look like. In addition, it also says something about your personality. It’s true “A picture is worth a thousand words” Just seeing your picture alone may not get someone’s heart racing straight away but there may be a common interest that is evident from your pictures that persuades someone to take a chance and who knows what could blossom from there.
Your profile picture should show what you really look like, meaning you need to show both a full length picture and a close up. In fact, dating experts agree that having a full body picture is a must. Otherwise, you may throw matches off. I know it can sound shallow but many people have a certain type and if you don’t fit into it, that’s fine, a transparent approach avoids disappointment all round.
Although you may have been ripped and tanned once upon a time, do not be tempted to post an old picture. Whilst in your twilight world of fantasy you may look exactly the same as you did 5 years ago, the chances are you don’t and your date won’t appreciate the false advertising!
Putting yourself out there on a dating site can be a daunting and nerve racking experience, especially if you are new to the single scene after many years. But certainly don’t feel that you are alone 40 Million American use online dating services, that’s about 40% of the entire single USA population!
The most important thing though is not to take it too seriously. You may be fortunate enough to meet your soul mate online but there are opportunities all the time to meet that special someone. At work, via friends at the super market, public transport, the list is endless. Just remember to love yourself, be happy in your own skin and who know when Cupid’s arrow will strike!
Dating sites are a great platform of meeting potential partners. However, you need to take caution so that you do not overdo or underdo anything that will jeopardize your chances of finding a date. Remember to show that smile because it is more inviting and you come across as someone who is approachable.