On Confidence in Yourself and The American Dream

We all remember sitting in our history classes when we were young, probably in a circle inside the classroom for a group discussion, and talking about what the American Dream really was. Nobody volunteered to speak, of course, because that would be geekish, and nobody wants to be a geek. But looking back on it all now, have we as individuals lost sight of it all?

Each and every one of us has a different Dream. It deals with careers, spouses, houses, cars, pets, kids, toys, money, and in general, success and being happy. Singers write songs about it, politicians preach it, and we as the common folk all believe, pray, and rely on it. It involves working harder for satisfaction than our hard-working, back-breaking parents did for us, and doing it not only for ourselves, but also for our family, friends, and those around us.

But it never comes easy. Like I said, our parents, and their parents before them (and so on and so forth), had to work hard, make sacrifices that they usually wouldn't make, and do things to ensure their survival in this world. My grandmother always tells me of back in the Depression when she would use cardboard for shoe soles. To imagine having to do that in our world today is unimaginable; we want too much, spend too much, and are too high-class for that. But the thing that we have to understand, and learn from, is that when times get tough, we dig in our heels, grit our teeth, and fire back to get the job done right. We're down, but we are, and never will be, out.

A lot of people have said lately that America is not the same as it used to be. Corrupt politicians, money-laundering, and no concern for the Middle Man seem to be at the top of the list. I personally feel that yeah, we have gotten ourselves into a pretty big hole, but not deep enough to the point where we can't see the sun's light above us. If you really feel that way, stop and take a minute to look what is going on around you. Not that I agree with with EVERYTHING that is going on, but look at people voicing their opinions for what they believe in; a true democracy where people are free to live the life that they want to. No, it's not going to be perfect, nor will it ever be; it is, after all, run by humans, and humans by nature are perfectly susceptible to making mistakes. But all around you, people are standing up for what is right so that the they can too live their own American Dream.

Part of this Dream not only comes from expressing yourself outward towards, but also instilling confidence in yourself to know that you can get the job done. We all can talk the talk, but we also need to prove to others that we can walk the walk as well. I have my goals, just like you have yours; sometimes, especially lately, they appear foggy and out of sight, almost as if they exist somewhere, just not in front of you. But believe in yourself, because they arethere. No matter what it is, if you don't start out with the confidence to get the job done, you won't reach your goals, and then your American Dream is nothing but a piece of shit in a clean lake. If there's ever one thing I've noticed about this crazy world, it's that no matter how deep you are in the dumps, you or someone you know, or some stranger for that matter, can lend a hand and pull you out. I've felt pretty low sometimes, and I come from a family where beating yourself up from doing one tiny little thing wrong is fairly common; but depression, and the unfortunate circumstance of feeling like you are going nowhere in life, are never permanent. Instead, they are temporary, and even though you don't want them there, they are there to help you learn a lesson about something.

So go out and do whatever it is that you want. Set your goals high, and set them in the right direction. Yeah, you might take a wrong turn every now and then, but don't let it affect where you eventually want to get to. It is, after all, your American Dream.

That's just how I feel. - Doug

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Comment by Carl Monster on October 24, 2011 at 12:52pm

So go out and do whatever it is that you want.

Great blog.

The above I picked out is most to important to me, and also the hardest to do. It takes some serious introspection and knowing oneself to determine what one truly wants to do.

Life is full of "shoulds": we should do this, have this, think this.

Screw the shoulds. We as men determine what we want or do not want to do, period.

We are prepared to deal with those repercussions, whatever that may be.

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