I grew up watching my grandpa (my dad's father) spend every Saturday working from early in the morning until late in the evening. He worked all week at a hangar in his town as an airplane mechanic. Then on Saturday, he would work around the house all day making life just a little bit better for himself and my grandma. I never understood this. I was a kid and I wanted to be entertained and to run around the yard and throw a baseball or football. But my grandpa was doing things like changing the oil in his car or mowing the lawn. I cannot tell you how many times I saw my grandpa change his oil. They say to change your oil every 3 months or every 3,000 miles. I think my grandpa changed his once a month after driving maybe 200. This being said, my grandpa has one of the best senses of humor I have ever encountered. He could and still can make me laugh at the drop of a hat.

My dad was very similar to my grandpa. He always mowed the yard. I remember riding with my dad quite a few times to wash the car or vaccum out the car. My dad though, can also make me laugh without effort. He would take time when my brother and sister and I were around to be a kid and screw around in the yard with us. Only after the things that needed to be taken care of were done though. Like I said, I was a kid and didn't understand that things needed to be done on the weekends. Weekends were when I didn't have school and when the world revolved around having fun and playing outside and sleeping in.

I am now no longer a kid. I live on my own. I pay bills. I work a full time and a part time job. I don't need both jobs, but I work them for the extra money that I am now saving. My weekends now consist of doing what I call my (adult stuff). I wake up early and clean my room up. I do my laundry. I wash dishes and mow the yard. I work on my car and wash it and vaccum it out. I take care of the things that need to be done before I have fun. I have actually learned to enjoy doing these things. I look back and realize how the work ethic of my grandpa and my dad have impacted my life. It has made me a much better man. Just from seeing how they lived their lives, is a huge part of what made me into the man that I am today. Now I know I don't have everything figured out, but as far as work ethic, there is no shortness of it in the Bancroft clan. I am proud of this fact and love to carry on the precedent that has been set.

I find it strange that even while I was a kid, running around and being a maniac, that things that I saw them do, though they seemed dumb, or stupid at the time effected me so greatly. It's wild. I'm not married, nor do I have any kids, but someday I hope to impact my son or sons in the same positive way that my dad and grandpa impacted me. Have fun and screw around, but work hard and take care of the things that need to be taken care of.

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Comment by Brad Bancroft on February 24, 2010 at 10:09pm
The weekends are definitely mine. I do exactly what I want. I just make sure I get a couple of things done first. I know that when the middle of the week roles around and I haven't done laundry, I'll hate myself for it. My car is a wreck and messy and makes it uncomfortable for me to ride in, let alone anyone else. I guess that the attitude that you attack it with is everything. If you look at it like a chore, then it becomes one. If you look at it as resetting from the week, and getting ready to make the next week possible, it seems less like a chore and more like slowing down from the hustle and bustle of the world. It's not for everyone for sure. It's just how I have come to unwind at the end of the week and get ready for the next in the process.
Comment by Myles Bancroft on February 23, 2010 at 9:04am
Very proud of what a fine man you've become.
Comment by Aaron J Kimmins on February 22, 2010 at 10:51pm
Maybe you just need to change your perspective Alison. There is NOTHING you HAVE to do. EVERYTHING you do is a decision. From getting out of bed in the morning, going to work, to snuggling in bed with the BF. It's all a choice. You have the FREEDOM to choose to do those things or to not do those things. If you decide that you WANT to do those things they will be less a chore.
Comment by DinoGirl on February 22, 2010 at 9:53pm
I really love this sentiment and wished I had the same one. I somehow still feel that the weekends are mine and hate doing anything that I "have" too on the weekends. I work from home, do my shopping and car tuning during the week and cherrish any moment I can snuggle in the bed with my BF. Mind you, the rest of the time I overwork and am constantly moving. I do well, but my time management and appreciation for these things is so different. I can't help but wonder, how did we grow up so similar and end up so different? I saw the chores as slavery and you saw them as freedom?

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