by Scott Hughes

Borrowed from

Most people aren't Warriors, and I'm fine with it. Most people do things that don't make sense, and I'm fine with it. I've learned to accept the non-sense that fills this world. (Part of being a Warrior is accepting that most other people are not Warriors, and accepting them.) Still, the point is that people do things that don't make sense. They whine, complain, and cry over problems they can easily change. They get depressed over problems they cause for themselves.

For example, lazy people often whine that they don't make more money. Selfish people complain that they don't have more friends. Many people sabotage all their romantic relationships and then complain that they don't have a lover.

Granted, sometimes when something bad happens to a person it's purely bad luck. For example, you could be sitting in your well-built home while reading the newspaper and a tornado could tear your home up.

However, usually when you don't like what's happening in your life, it's your own damn fault. It's your fault if you're fat, lazy, uneducated, lonely, etc.

In the following, I list 71 things that you can do to be more successful. You choose to do them or not. If you choose not to do these things, then you have no right to complain about your problems; your problems are your fault!

1. Stop watching television.
2. Stop eating fast food.
3. Stop eating pizza and fried foods.
4. Stop driving places that you could easily walk to.
5. Read at least 1 book a month.
6. Take classes in what interests you or your vocation.
7. Work enough to support yourself, and if needed get a new job or second job to make enough to support yourself. Never stick with a job that doesn't pay enough to support yourself no matter how much you work.
8. Pay off your debts and don't go in debt. You can pay off your debts if you avoid needless expenses, such as cable, overpriced clothes, impractical decorations, unhealthy snacks, jewelry, etcetera.
9. Don't buy a car on finance, and don't buy an expensive car if a cheaper one that works is available.
10. Wake up early, and get all your work done as quickly as possible. That includes household chores, as well as your employment.
11. Drink alcohol less or quit.
12. Do drugs less or quit.
13. Don't smoke cigarettes.
14. Don't eat foods with high fructose corn syrup.
15. Don't drink soda.
16. Don't eat sugary foods at all.
17. Don't drink more than 1 glass of juice per day.
18. Stand up straight and have good posture.
19. Look people in the eyes when you talk to them.
20. Smile.
21. Be polite.
22. Keep your promises.
23. Wear a watch, if you can afford it.
24. Eat breakfast.
25. If you eat cereal at any time, choose your cereal based on healthiness not tastiness.
26. Exercise at least 3 days per week.
27. Walk often.
28. Always write with correct spelling and grammar.
29. Never speak worse about a person behind their back than you do to their face. (Feel free to say nicer things about a person behind their back than to their face.)
30. Don't gossip and don't have a big mouth.
31. Never judge other people harsher than you judge yourself.
32. Make New Years resolutions, but make one every day instead of every year.
33. Volunteer.
34. Forgive, but never forget.
35. Don't have skeletons in your closet.
36. Keep as few secrets as reasonably possible.
37. Despite the rule before this one, keep your friends' secrets.
38. Politely tell people that you will not betray your friends' trust, when you are asked about their secrets and such.
39. Volunteering (i.e. activism) is more important than voting. If you can do both, good for you. If you only have time for one, volunteer instead of voting. It makes more of a difference.
40. Privately question your own values.
41. Avoid questioning other people's values, especially in public.
42. Listen more than you talk.
43. Use a journal to count how many calories you consume per day.
44. Use a journal to count how many calories you burn per day.
45. If you want to lose weight, burn slightly more than you consume. If you want to gain weight, consume slightly more than you burn. If you are happy with your weight, try to burn the same amount as you consume.
46. Weigh yourself daily at the same time(s).
47. Write your daily weight down in a journal.
48. Never allow the police to search you, your car, or your belongings if you do not have something to hide.
49. Never tell other people that you think they or something they are doing is immoral or sinful.
50. Keep your moral values and religion to yourself. Use them to direct your own actions.
51. Ask people how they are often and listen to their answer.
52. Laugh at other people's jokes, but not your own.
53. Shower at least once per day.
54. Wash your hands, even if you aren't an employee.
55. Take care of the elderly, which includes spending time with them and talking to them.
56. Avoid going places where you need to be waited on.
57. Wait on yourself wherever possible.
58. Make your friends look good.
59. Avoid lying.
60. Don't pretend to be better than you are. Don't pretend to be more successful, popular, etcetera.
61. Treat other people as if they are better than they are. Treat them as if they are more successful, popular, etcetera.
62. Don't brag about your talents. Instead, surprise people with them when they just happen to be called upon.
63. Sit up straight.
64. Keep your house clean.
65. If you have either of them, keep your car and office clean.
66. Stretch daily. (I do Yoga most mornings.)
67. Dance.
68. Take dancing lessons if you could use improvement.
69. Ask other people (e.g. your friends, your co-workers, your boss, etc.) what their favorite book is, and read it.
70. Ask their favorite song or band, and listen to it.
71. Ask their favorite movie, and watch it.

72. Don't be camera shy.
73. When your alarm goes off in the morning (if you use one), don't press snooze.
74. Make a budget and follow it.

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Comment by Cowboy Bob Sorensen on October 4, 2009 at 9:22am
Jonathan, I believe that some amount of pride in accomplishments is warranted. Becoming boastful is not. So, no, you did not violate #62 IMO.
Comment by Jonathan Cunningham on October 4, 2009 at 8:01am
I heartily agree with #62. Humility is a lost art these days, in an era of celebrity.

Last summer we needed some shelf space at work and I surprised my boss when I volunteered to build them. The boss was trying to save money at the time and agreed. He was surprised when they turned out better than expected.

I'm not sure if sharing that violates #62 or not.
Comment by Cowboy Bob Sorensen on October 4, 2009 at 7:53am
PS — Sorry, just have to on number 35... Remember that show "NewsRadio" from about ten years ago? The boss, Jimmy James, was going to run for public office. Dave Foley asked him, "Don't you have skeletons in your closet?" Jimmy replied, "Hell, I have skeletons running around, stealing leftovers out of the fridge!" OK, so my quote is not exact. But anyway, aside from thinking that is hilarious, I also think that some skeletons are going to be there and there's nothing we can do about it except manage them as well as we can. The other thought is that we should do our best to have good character and actions so we do not add more skeletons into our closets. After all, the rest of us don't have the Hollywood elite going to bat for us when those skeletons have a thirty year arrest warrant and want to take us to jail.
Comment by Steve Scarfia on October 2, 2009 at 5:42am
Hey dude, I agree.

I will also never give up on pizza or beer, but I have limited their use immensely. I didn't come up with this list my self, but I really did like it, which is why I posted it.

I agree about your points regarding drugs and cigarettes too. Luckily for me, I don't have an easily addictive personality, so when I smoked weed for a whole summer (in 2002), I had no qualms with quitting cold turkey when I decided that it was a waste of my time and money. Same with alcohol, when my body's had enough, it let's me know by just not liking the taste anymore (usually only after a few drinks).

I know what you mean about the lying thing too, I don't make it a habbit to lie, but sometimes it just happens (for reasons like the one you described).

Thanks for commenting btw, I appreciate ppl reading my rantings/postings, etc.
Comment by Cowboy Bob Sorensen on October 2, 2009 at 5:07am
As always with a list that large, there are "yes but" exceptions, things that each individual can reject out of hand, qualifies — and a lot of sense.

I'm not giving up pizza, but I have cut back on it.

11. Drink alcohol less or quit.
12. Do drugs less or quit.
13. Don't smoke cigarettes.
All three should be on the "quit" list; no man should be altering his consciousness with chemicals, or using something that causes him to lose control (including addiction).

59. Avoid lying. Yes, be a man of your word. That is a very big one for me. Heck, even "Ghost Hunters" keep their word to the spirits ("If you want us to leave this room, make the lights on this device light up again...OK, we'll keep our word"). Interestingly, "avoid" is an important word. I would like to say that I never lie, but a study showed that people lie more than they think, and do it unconsciously. Most of them are "little white lies" because no, I don't want to tell that hottie that her dress looks like a potato sack but I love the amount of cleavage it reveals.

There is give and take on many, but overall, the list should be printed out and used.

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