I'm currently on my first leave from the U.S. Merchant Marine Academy, Kings Point. One thing I learned during my Plebe Summer that separates Kings Point from the other academies is our lack of a toleration clause. Our honor code is simply that "A...
Thanks for all the advice. This is hypothetical and I hope I don't get put in a situation where I have to decide where the loyalty lies but it always good to think about in case I ever get in that situation. Sometimes right and wrong isn't as blac...
I suppose you either (a) work to restore the system back to what it began as, or (b) leave the system for a better one.
To me, though, it doesn't sound as if KPeckham really believes that the system is in the wrong. I'm getting the impression tha...
What if you swear to the system, and then find out that the system has rotted from the inside out, by OTHER corrupted types, who are now in charge? What THEN?
There's a difference between being a permissive friend and an accountable friend. I don't think I need to clarify which is better; you need to choose for yourself which you'll be.
If you catch your buddy in a lie, call him on it. If he cops to it...
The one thing that this argument always comes down too is trusting the integrity of your best friend or trusting n the system. When somone is your best friend and you would do anything for him and he would do the same for you where does the system...
Very well put Jamie.
Peckham, You are responsible to not only the military system, but also to everyone around you, to your buddy, and to yourself. If you have a specific person that is not acting with the highest level of integrity, and the issu...
Agreed, for the most part. I thought you communicated your point about choosing friends very clearly, and I couldn't agree more. We become like those with whom we associate, so our closest friends should be carefully chosen.
The only part I'd per...
And, admittedly...if the behavior is becoming self destructive, then you don't want to let it continue. I counsel caution, however. Make the wrong person angry, and your career may very well be over before it begins. In my post above, what I think...
Ask yourself this: what kind of "friend" are you being if you stand idly by while your buddy chips away at his own integrity by committing "small white lies and violations"?
A big part of loyalty is watching your friend's back. If he's doing some...
This is something I struggle with. Human nature, it is not a simple thing. Not at all...
My wife is constantly telling me, when I have an issue I raise with her, asking her advice, to "Pick My Battles". Peckham, I have no idea what your life has ...
I thought that was a great article today on loyalty. I too, agree that loyalty is one of the single most important things that a man can hold. To be loyal to his friends and have his friends be loyal to him in return to me is the purest accomplish...
First off, congratulations on your appointment. I wanted to join the military but bum feet and a nasty injury at the end of high school (I was being young and stupid; stupid being the operative term here) ended that idea. All I can say is eyes and...