I think the key is background creating barriers, not you. The men in my family have been utterly homophobic my entire life, but my mom (who raised me when my dad dropped out of the picture) was friends with several gay men, so I never thought…"
"I find making real friends with other guys almost impossible, never mind what their sexual orientation is.
All of my current real-life male relationships really fall in the "acquaintance" category, even though I've known some of them…"
"Men choose friends for many reasons - some men have had more choices then others. I don't spend time with men that think I'm great - want me to listen to them about their home life, wife, kids - but get squeamish…"
"Most of my real friends are straight. Most didn't know me when I came out ( that was a long time ago.) I am not in the closet in the least. I guess I am lucky. I will say that most of my friends are well educated - perhaps that…"
"This is a very complex issue, and my answer is going to be commensurate with that complexity.
- Homosexuality is a specific sexual orientation. It is an innate trait. Gay is a cultural affinity that is over-layed on many people within the…"
"As with all things, i think it has a lot to do with the individual person. I do have one gay friend who is a "Flamer" (his own words, and even that may be too mild a description), and i just find him entertaining. I have another who I was…"
"Gay men (who act "gay" in the stereotypical sitcom way) remind me of the type of women that I don't care for too much. Straight men with few exceptions don't care for that stuff. Men tolerate it from women because of ... well, ya…"
"Actually, no. Most of my friends who are gay, were already out when I met them. Now, perhaps, I'm a statistical outlier, but I don't care!
One of my friends is the father in a house of practicing witches.…"
"I totally hear you. I could be labeled as a 'gay man'. Sometimes, I find it difficult to be friends with other men in general. I know that I am a fickle creature, and tend to run away at the slightest scare.
"I would have to agree with what Chuck and David said. People are people and if you get along and become friends then you do. If not then find new people. There are some out there that have major concerns or issues…"
"I have a few gay friends. The main thing I found was I had to gently let them know I did not care about their orientation. For the most part I thought they where and just let things ride until they said something and had that look on…"
"Oh, and based on what you disclosed, you certainly have not made a grand mistake: the fact that she is still into you means she did not feel it was a deal-breaker. It means she still finds that you have significant worth to her.
I do advise you to…"
"Thanks for your thoughtful response. The analogy with the volume knob definitely makes sense, I certainly love her on one level, as I think she is amazing and feel very strong emotions when thinking about her. I just haven't know her very long…"
"I suspect communication will make both of you feel better.
What happened is very natural and does not mean a bad thing has happened.
She said something that you were not prepared for. Silence was your brain pausing so it could process…"
"I think it's ok to apologize, tell her that she caught you a bit off-guard and in that moment you were not sure how to respond. That you really like her, are happy to know how she feels, and to give you a little time to let your feelings catch…"
Hi there,I've been seeing a girl for about two months and last Friday we were out at two of her friends' engagement party, everyone was drinking a lot of alcohol and after we left the bar we were walking along and she told me that she loved me. I was pretty drunk and didn't know how to respond. Unfortunately, her response was met by silence, which I feel pretty bad about. She put her heart on the line and I didn't respond.I suppose I felt that two months was too soon to really be feeling things…See More