I think the key is background creating barriers, not you. The men in my family have been utterly homophobic my entire life, but my mom (who raised me when my dad dropped out of the picture) was friends with several gay men, so I never thought…"
"I find making real friends with other guys almost impossible, never mind what their sexual orientation is.
All of my current real-life male relationships really fall in the "acquaintance" category, even though I've known some of them…"
"Men choose friends for many reasons - some men have had more choices then others. I don't spend time with men that think I'm great - want me to listen to them about their home life, wife, kids - but get squeamish…"
"Most of my real friends are straight. Most didn't know me when I came out ( that was a long time ago.) I am not in the closet in the least. I guess I am lucky. I will say that most of my friends are well educated - perhaps that…"
"This is a very complex issue, and my answer is going to be commensurate with that complexity.
- Homosexuality is a specific sexual orientation. It is an innate trait. Gay is a cultural affinity that is over-layed on many people within the…"
"As with all things, i think it has a lot to do with the individual person. I do have one gay friend who is a "Flamer" (his own words, and even that may be too mild a description), and i just find him entertaining. I have another who I was…"
"Gay men (who act "gay" in the stereotypical sitcom way) remind me of the type of women that I don't care for too much. Straight men with few exceptions don't care for that stuff. Men tolerate it from women because of ... well, ya…"
"That is a problem with many gay men that I've known. Just as women have difficulty in having platonic friendships with straight men gay men have the same difficulty with other gay men. Common denominator? Sex pure and…"
"Actually, no. Most of my friends who are gay, were already out when I met them. Now, perhaps, I'm a statistical outlier, but I don't care!
One of my friends is the father in a house of practicing witches.…"
"I totally hear you. I could be labeled as a 'gay man'. Sometimes, I find it difficult to be friends with other men in general. I know that I am a fickle creature, and tend to run away at the slightest scare.
"If you are trying to stop a "it makes me feel good" cycle that you feel is unhealthy/unwanted, then simply find what you are trying to smooth over or compensate for. Go back and take care of that.
Your appetite for the alternate…"
"standing back at the end of a long hard project and thinking "I built that".
Seeing my children come running as I pull in the drive at the end of a workday.
seeing my wife's eyes light up as I come in the front door.
"I find that having a supply of really good food to cook over the fire - salmon steaks are my favorite - and plenty of wine helps. You may want to take baby steps by going to a state park that has cabins you can rent. Once you graduate to tent…"