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Raising someone else's child- advice please!

Started this discussion. Last reply by Trentington Apr 10, 2013. 22 Replies

Tonight I've really questioned myself, I'm in a complex situation and I'll try to sum it up as best as I can.A few years back a friend of mine moved from the US to Germany- we had a summer fling a…Continue

 

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Trentington replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"Wes, you seem to be in quite a pickle, and you have a lot of factors expressing themselves at you. 1st, as already Identified, get some advice from a lawyer as to what your options are, it is had to make a desicion otherwise.  2nd, you seem to…"
Apr 10, 2013
Michael B. replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"So, let me resummarize this for understanding; You've been having a long distance affair with a married woman, and you are apprehensive about raising the child that belongs to a man you have more or less been stealing from?   And what…"
Apr 10, 2013
Penelope replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"You can provide material support if you want and can afford to, but don't expect ANYTHING in return. Just make a no-attachments gift to your friend. If she wants to leave Germany, it sounds to me like she needs, first, to consult a lawyer there…"
Apr 9, 2013
Nick H replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"Telling someone to rot is not nice but I don't know if that would count as abuse. Actually, if your spouse is cheating on you its probably an appropriate thing to say. I think you are in a bad place here. I realise you had a nice moment with…"
Apr 9, 2013
Wes replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"I AM in love with her, I know the wise thing- I hear it from all of my friends whenever I describe the situation. But there's this gut feeling too I haven't gotten from any other women. I know she wants to get better and she's held it…"
Apr 9, 2013
Wes replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"I work at amazon and every night I have all this empty time to consider the situation. Over 2 years I've looked at it from all kinds of angles. The main thing is getting her somewhere on her feet. After that I say we try things for a few months…"
Apr 9, 2013
Wes replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"The thing is, he literally came to me on webcam when we were talking and said 'you want THIS?' Referring to his 2 year old daughter. He has hardly any involvement with her dispite living at home the past year on unemployment. He just plays…"
Apr 9, 2013
Stein replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"Wes, there is a lot of stuff here. I hear you say you love this girl. I don't hear you say you are in love with her. She also has a lot of issues for which you can not be responsible, and for which you should not be responsible. This does not…"
Apr 8, 2013
Wes replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"Are there any legal arrangements that could be made so that I'm not in that position? I really trust my friend wouldn't take off with the child one day considering I've stuck with her through the rough times and really want to try my…"
Apr 8, 2013
Wes replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"I suppose I may have put more emphasis on her problem than what I'm getting out of it. When we met 4 years ago she lived in another city- we were both just looking for something fun, short and interesting. We just scraped the surface of each…"
Apr 8, 2013
Samuel Chapman replied to Wes's discussion Raising someone else's child- advice please!
"I think your friends' advice holds some water here.  Don't go heading into a rescue mission relationship, especially when you've already decided against it once before. "
Apr 8, 2013
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Raising someone else's child- advice please!

Tonight I've really questioned myself, I'm in a complex situation and I'll try to sum it up as best as I can.A few years back a friend of mine moved from the US to Germany- we had a summer fling a few years earlier but didn't get too serious. She ended up getting married in Germany and having a daughter who is 2 years old now. I started talking more with her because her husband became extremely neglectful and abusive, and I sort of became an outlet. I couldn't handle her being treated that way…See More
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"Hi there Wes. Welcome to AoM. Also, I'd like to give you a friendly invite to check out my group, The Great Debate. Just click on "Groups." It's the one with the colorful galaxy picture. It's also one of the most active…"
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At 2:45am on March 22, 2010, Herb Munson said…
Hi there Wes. Welcome to AoM. Also, I'd like to give you a friendly invite to check out my group, The Great Debate. Just click on "Groups." It's the one with the colorful galaxy picture. It's also one of the most active groups on AoM. In any case, great to have you aboard.
 
 
 

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