Hi :)I could have started this topic with "a friend of mine has a problem", but we're not kids, aren't we? :) It is about me and my problem (which, I think, is not so uncommon and deserves a thread…Continue
I found myself in a very similar situation to Betz, and that's how I dug out of it. Work hard, do the right thing, and above all be honest!
I've found that the honesty, and accepting responsibility go quite far in restoring…"
"I'm an attorney. I've screwed up major before. Honestly, the only way to get it back is to earn it back. Early in career, I ruined cases based upon my own incompetence, laziness, or inattentiveness. The only way I…"
"Thanks for the replies. :)
SteveSF, thanks for the praise, it does take some courage because writing this was quite uncomfortable. Also was resisting to the idea of deleting the whole topic :) I hope the whole discussion helps someone else to…"
"I don't know. But I'll make some comments.
Restoring integrity: how about steps 1-3 of the 12 steps? They're for anyone who has something he's powerless over
Restoring self-esteem: Depends on what you base…"
"Wow, well, first I think it's worth mentioning than most guys wouldn't have the balls to admit they fucked up, much less ask for advice.
Not to be harsh, but in a sense integrity and virginity are the same, once lost can not be regained.…"
"If you want to wear art on your body, get a t-shirt. But if you decide to get a tattoo, and it's someplace people can see it -- which is usually the point of getting a tattoo for many, to show it off -- you're going to have…"
"And quality. Don't forget quality.
There is a big difference in the impression given by someone displaying a scratched-on home tattoo and someone sporting an impeccable tattoo from a true artist. A quick google search…"
"I'm a teacher and I have a tattoo "where the sun don't shine." Generally, I am repulsed by prominent tattoos on women ... especially if they are in positions of authority. Doesn't bother me on he-man types of men ... but I…"
"I am grateful for the excellent advice I have received and appreciate the time you took to write it. I enjoyed reading all of your comments and it will be of great use to me.
I was once a gamer, who would play on average 6 hours a day, but I broke…"
"This is a great analysis of it. I just have a hard time in really setting aside Sunday and making it the Sabbath. Something always crops up, or i never prepare well during week and then Sunday rolls around and we've forgotten something at…"
"I agree. It seems like the type of thing that some people get and then they may receive negative feedback (just or not) or they may just feel guilty about making a dumb choice. Whereas I don't know that I've ever talked to somebody that…"