I'm not very good at making posts on any website, but I figured this would be the place to really put this out there. I'm hoping to gain some wisdom and possibly some confidence...My name is Victor,…Continue
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"I would never tell a child that their mommy can't be their mommy, ever. Reason, they'll believe that it was something about them that made mommy not want to be their mommy, kids do this all the time. They blame…"
"Maybe I'm giving her too much credit, but I expect it's just a matter of time before she realizes what it is she's done. And when she does, she's going to want those kids back. I hope he gets his paperwork squared away quickly."
"That's not a bad way to put it. My concern is that the children would blame themselves for mommy not wanting to live with them. But that may be more of a concern for the five year old, whereas the two year old would know mommy was gone but…"
"One of my neighbors is going through something similar, with similarly young children. He told the younger one that...Mommy decided she didn't want to live with us, anymore.
Obviously I am not privy to the rest of the conversation,…"
"I agree that it's not a good idea to bad mouth their mother at this point. After all, the kids are two and five. But about the truth. The truth is too harsh. Do you mean a version of the truth? Maybe something like, "your mommy can't…"
"As of this morning, I am officially on my own. My children are with me, and we have the full support of friends and family. My wife has spoken to my lawyer and has offered to sign over custodial rights to me. She feels the children are holding her…"
"Sounds like you've been given and accepted the best advice already. I just want to add that you don't need to question your manliness. You've shown yourself to be a good man in every stage of this. Keep the faith,…"
"What everyone else said. We're all behind you sir. Hang in there. And don't feel that wanting to trust the person you're married to makes you unmanly. What you're doing and having to go through is the epitome of the hell that is…"
"I'm going to echo what everyone else has said because I think it is important.
1. Get a lawyer
2. Get a divorce
3. Get the kids
You don't need me to tell you that your life with her is only miserable. You need to do what is best for you…"
"No long conversations. Definitely talk with lawyers first, as many as you can as was suggested. I echo what Will said, she will likely have an awesome sob story that implicates you for whatever she can dream up. My mom made these types of threats…"
"Nope. My education, background, and most of my professional career has been with birth to graduation. I've taught courses to early childhood majors, including discipline and child development for several years at college an university. I went…"
"Just thought I would weigh in here.
Different people attract different people. I have seen couples that are perfect for each other and are happily together and I have seen people who are exact opposites who are happily together. It doesn't make…"
""For most of human history, in most places, kids sleep in bed or on the floor with the parents, or in the same room."
Yep. Very important to note. The whole fixation on getting kids into their own beds in their own rooms and sleeping…"