I'm not very good at making posts on any website, but I figured this would be the place to really put this out there. I'm hoping to gain some wisdom and possibly some confidence...My name is Victor,…Continue
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"I would never tell a child that their mommy can't be their mommy, ever. Reason, they'll believe that it was something about them that made mommy not want to be their mommy, kids do this all the time. They blame…"
"Maybe I'm giving her too much credit, but I expect it's just a matter of time before she realizes what it is she's done. And when she does, she's going to want those kids back. I hope he gets his paperwork squared away quickly."
"That's not a bad way to put it. My concern is that the children would blame themselves for mommy not wanting to live with them. But that may be more of a concern for the five year old, whereas the two year old would know mommy was gone but…"
"One of my neighbors is going through something similar, with similarly young children. He told the younger one that...Mommy decided she didn't want to live with us, anymore.
Obviously I am not privy to the rest of the conversation,…"
"I agree that it's not a good idea to bad mouth their mother at this point. After all, the kids are two and five. But about the truth. The truth is too harsh. Do you mean a version of the truth? Maybe something like, "your mommy can't…"
"As of this morning, I am officially on my own. My children are with me, and we have the full support of friends and family. My wife has spoken to my lawyer and has offered to sign over custodial rights to me. She feels the children are holding her…"
"Sounds like you've been given and accepted the best advice already. I just want to add that you don't need to question your manliness. You've shown yourself to be a good man in every stage of this. Keep the faith,…"
"What everyone else said. We're all behind you sir. Hang in there. And don't feel that wanting to trust the person you're married to makes you unmanly. What you're doing and having to go through is the epitome of the hell that is…"
"I'm going to echo what everyone else has said because I think it is important.
1. Get a lawyer
2. Get a divorce
3. Get the kids
You don't need me to tell you that your life with her is only miserable. You need to do what is best for you…"
"No long conversations. Definitely talk with lawyers first, as many as you can as was suggested. I echo what Will said, she will likely have an awesome sob story that implicates you for whatever she can dream up. My mom made these types of threats…"
“Thus, from the war of nature, from famine and death, the most exalted object which we are capable of conceiving, namely, the production of the higher animals, directly follows. There is grandeur in this view of life, with its several powers, having been originally breathed into a few forms or into one; and that, whilst this planet has gone cycling on according to the fixed law of gravity, from so simple a beginning endless forms most beautiful and most wonderful have been, and are being,…See More
Best I can tell, your complaint is that men -- particularly Asian or Korean men -- aren't into dark-skinned women. You say your parents immigrated to the U.S., so it doesn't sound like you live in Asia. You call yourself a…"
"I'll have to think about this some more, but one things comes to mind right off.
The volatility of the classes makes for some of the mismatches you mention. Purely income-wise I grew up probably somewhere between middle-class and…"
1. You seem to have self-loathing, low self esteem, and bad self image.
2. You live in Korea? Asian countries can be tough to deal with if you are not Asian. However, I can tell you many other countries in the world DO in fact like black…"
Just saw this and figured Id reply. I was a BLM/Forest Service firefighter for four years, two on engines and last two on a hotshot crew. The biggest thing honestly is calling and or visiting fire captains to show your interest. Some of…"
"I'm not sure what I could say to help, although I'd like to. It sounds like you are dealing with some specific problems that feel like general ones. I don't know what your experiences are, but they sound…"