I'm not very good at making posts on any website, but I figured this would be the place to really put this out there. I'm hoping to gain some wisdom and possibly some confidence...My name is Victor,…Continue
"A question:How are the children handling the situation? I would recomend that even if you think they are handling it ok you let them know they will always have you and that you will love them no matter what, which I am sure you are doing. Another…"
""It may be that there's no "good" way to put it, only lesser versions of bad." I believe you've put it rightly there.
My father moved out to "find himself" shortly after I joined the military and my…"
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"I would never tell a child that their mommy can't be their mommy, ever. Reason, they'll believe that it was something about them that made mommy not want to be their mommy, kids do this all the time. They blame…"
"I think the fact that she signed away custody and her actions, which I hope he documented, prior to this will weigh heavily in the future; and any actions she takes until that poiont, which again I hope he documents as well. Also, it depends…"
"Maybe I'm giving her too much credit, but I expect it's just a matter of time before she realizes what it is she's done. And when she does, she's going to want those kids back. I hope he gets his paperwork squared away quickly."
"That's not a bad way to put it. My concern is that the children would blame themselves for mommy not wanting to live with them. But that may be more of a concern for the five year old, whereas the two year old would know mommy was gone but…"
"I would say to let them know mommy won't be living with them anymore but she still loves them. Not much more than that at this age otherwise they'd get hurt or confused. Also, let them know that mommy will let him know when…"
"One of my neighbors is going through something similar, with similarly young children. He told the younger one that...Mommy decided she didn't want to live with us, anymore.
Obviously I am not privy to the rest of the conversation,…"
"I agree that it's not a good idea to bad mouth their mother at this point. After all, the kids are two and five. But about the truth. The truth is too harsh. Do you mean a version of the truth? Maybe something like, "your mommy can't…"
"Perhaps have a listen to one of these while taking care of the household?
Being a single parent you're probably seriously out of time but may I offer some questions to ponder deeper exploration?
"I missed the memo on this tradition of male messing with each other long ago, women don't do that sort of thing.
I know now I've probably deep-sixed more than a few developing friendships because of misinterpreting that.