I am afraid that Men, Real Men, are a dying breed. I look at today's generation of so called "Men" and see boys. These "Men," lack responsibility, accountability, determination, and resourcefulness,…Continue
"> You make a ton of generalizations here without much substance.
> That is more or less true, but that does not mean that he is incorrect.
^This. If I'm to be alarmed, disgusted, or in any way engaged, I want to know that the belief…"
"For all of you talking about welfare regulations that encourage fatherlessness, my understanding is that the regs were written in days when young widowhood was far more common, and just haven't been updated for contemporary life expectancies or…"
"I heard all the stories growing up - unheated apartments in the Pacific Northwest, packing crates as furniture, buying meat in bulk and eating the same thing for months. But there are bigger forces at work that means I'm living those stories…"
"You have hit the nail on the head about the current generation of young males moving into adulthood. This has been a major gripe of mine for many years, and a key factor in why, even now and when I was young, I preferred the company of older…"
"I'd have loved to. Unfortunately, while I was away at work making a living, boy-loathing feminist teachers and youth-group leaders bullied, browbeat, and shamed my sons and were not exactly themselves role-models for them. I didn't…"
"There has been a loss of focus on what having a family and being a man means. Statistics are nice, opinions--everyone has one. A man needs to be selective in the spouse they choose, they need to have a plan for their family, and there must be…"
"Being raised by my Dad, I was taught that there are very few things that you absolutely must do, in order to be a real man. First is taking care of the family.. if you can't do that, you have no business having a family. Second, you need to be…"
I too worried about where the Male species was headed...I'm sure you've seen at one point the Evolution poster that shows people going from groundhogs to monkies to modern man to Kanye West or something with "Men: What the…"
"That's probably the real crux of it. Men aren't in decline everywhere ... but, where they are, there will be hell to pay. I don't think it has much to do with 'fortune', though.
Two cultures running…"
"I understand why you might think financial stability is the exception rather than the rule. I don't know that I agree, but I see the point.
Family and social stability are a different thing, though. Even in decidedly unstable…"
"I do. I'm not saying a 'correction' is a good thing, but you have to admit that the time period of the Great Generation was an anomaly, both socially and economically.
It was a unique time of rising wages, falling…"
"I think it's good to look at the specifics.
On the one hand, the best of us are better than before, I think. Feminism helped. It told us it was OK for women to have careers and men to be involved with their children.…"
"So, its your opinion that the rise of divorce, fatherlessness, illegitimacy, dependency, etc. are a "correction" ... and that the era wherein fathers actually stayed around, men worked for a living, marriages lasted longer, etc.…"
"I said tough times should create tough men.
First of all ... I'm not sure the times are quite as tough as we make them out to be. Certainly nothing close to comparable to WW2 or the Great Depression. Second, the last 60-years…"
"Oh, and based on what you disclosed, you certainly have not made a grand mistake: the fact that she is still into you means she did not feel it was a deal-breaker. It means she still finds that you have significant worth to her.
I do advise you to…"
"Thanks for your thoughtful response. The analogy with the volume knob definitely makes sense, I certainly love her on one level, as I think she is amazing and feel very strong emotions when thinking about her. I just haven't know her very long…"
"I suspect communication will make both of you feel better.
What happened is very natural and does not mean a bad thing has happened.
She said something that you were not prepared for. Silence was your brain pausing so it could process…"
"I think it's ok to apologize, tell her that she caught you a bit off-guard and in that moment you were not sure how to respond. That you really like her, are happy to know how she feels, and to give you a little time to let your feelings catch…"
Hi there,I've been seeing a girl for about two months and last Friday we were out at two of her friends' engagement party, everyone was drinking a lot of alcohol and after we left the bar we were walking along and she told me that she loved me. I was pretty drunk and didn't know how to respond. Unfortunately, her response was met by silence, which I feel pretty bad about. She put her heart on the line and I didn't respond.I suppose I felt that two months was too soon to really be feeling things…See More
"I'm an investment manager and manage private client portfolios. We don't earn anywhere near as much as people managing funds, but I enjoy it most of the time. There's always stressful periods, like when the markets are tanking, but I…"