First thing: Take a deep breath and count to ten!
My story sounds similar to yours: Left a great job/career to move to Amsterdam (from South Africa in my case). Wife quickly found excellent employment, I didn't, our…"
"Thanks so much for the replies, it's great to get some perspective here.
Regarding her priorities. The more I think about it, the more I think that she's actually right not to consider leaving her job, for the relationship or otherwise.…"
"Thanks David, that's not a bad suggestion at all and I've started to do it.
I've personally never worked at a studio that has offices in Amsterdam, but some of my former colleagues have. The problem seems to literally be that…"
I think I just miss a lot of things in London. I was spoiled, admittedly, I just find myself constantly comparing things to the equivalent in London, and everything has fallen short so far. Even the 'vibe' here grates on me…"
She's likely to come to a conclusion that you don't trust her (whether it true or not) and get annoyed by that. She's laughing off your insecurities, I'd say that's a good sign that the thought of cheating…"
"Dude I have to ask... Are you cheating on her? Or have you? Usually when people suspect their partner of cheating its because they're the ones being unfaithful. Either that or you must've had some bad things with other women happen in the…"
She was cool about it . . . this time. But I suspect that your paranoia has hit her harder than you think and, if you don't do something about yourself ASAP, you're well on your way to a self-fulfilling prophecy.
"All I can say is that if a woman is going to cheat on you, theres absolutely nothing you can do. You just have to ask yourself do you trust her? Also is she trustworthy? If she's a good woman you have nothing to worry about.…"
"Ok thanks for the further advice, I'm getting the idea here. A long way from 'comfortable' but better than before I started this thread.
I've spent the last few days embracing what we have and it feels comforting to deliberately…"
"You don't have any reason not to trust her....so why don't you??
I'm telling ya, you need to relax before it's too late.
I struggled with the same issue after my girl went to college a couple of hours from home. I told her…"
"I have had great success with online dating. I've met multiple girlfriends as well as multiple casual sex partners through online dating and the worst experience I had was a blah first date with someone who I never contacted again and who…"
"I read the first paragraph very intrigued by the mystery to come. Then in the second paragraph this sentence stopped my eyes:
Tah-dah!!! Problem found. Then I read the rest of the post with careful attention. However,…"
"Hmmmm, a few thoughts:
1) Kids hold down those who don't want kids, like Demetri and I. People who really want kids don't feel held down by them. We can't be absolute about it. Certainly carrying two…"
"There is a partial truth to thisI will be honest, I met my current girlfriend online. We were both fairly young but it was fine, now we're around the age to have our relationship materialize into something real, not exclusively online.