""As well as her new job, we just moved to a new city, I've been jobless since we got here a couple months ago, and yet to make new friends here."
Those are certainly contributing factors but you should still look into some pro…"
"I don't think he doesn't trust her; I think he lacks self-confidence and doesn't see value in himself. The result is that he believes that it's only a matter of time before his GF recognizes his lack of value and gets swept away…"
First thing: Take a deep breath and count to ten!
My story sounds similar to yours: Left a great job/career to move to Amsterdam (from South Africa in my case). Wife quickly found excellent employment, I didn't, our…"
"Thanks so much for the replies, it's great to get some perspective here.
Regarding her priorities. The more I think about it, the more I think that she's actually right not to consider leaving her job, for the relationship or otherwise.…"
"Thanks David, that's not a bad suggestion at all and I've started to do it.
I've personally never worked at a studio that has offices in Amsterdam, but some of my former colleagues have. The problem seems to literally be that…"
I think I just miss a lot of things in London. I was spoiled, admittedly, I just find myself constantly comparing things to the equivalent in London, and everything has fallen short so far. Even the 'vibe' here grates on me…"
"But the effects of 4chan's efforts are impacting more people than just 4chan. It may not exist "to serve anyone" but it does have some responsibility, especially if it's providing cover and a vehicle for racists online and…"
"I'm not really buying it. If it's a joke, it's only a joke for 4chan members. The rest of the real world only sees what people do with it, and that's getting pretty damn terrifying. Might be time for 4chan to examine it's…"
"Mic is the website I linked you to that broke the milk story.
There's always idiots on the fringe who take a joke seriously. But that doesn't mean it started as, and still primarily is, a joke. There are people who legitimately think meme…"
"Journaling, counseling, reading relevant books, ManKind Project, Codependents Anonymous, talking here or IRL, inner child work... if it's a big enough deal to merit it, try everything in sight til something works."
"I concur with salt. If it's a traumatic event we are discussing, then I would say take the steps you need to put it behind you. In other words, if you cannot alter it then it's probably best to drive on...just my humble opinion."