Hello All,I am a senior in college and am having some major problems mentoring a freshmen. He has a lot of the typical problems that some men seem to have these days low confidence and self esteem,…Continue
"Check out the book "Failing Forward" by John Maxwell. It's a good read and I think it can teach your protege a lot. Maybe that can be a condition of your continiung mentorship. The two of you will go through the book…"
"Thanks for the advice Mike. I am mentoring him because he was assigned to my room during a church mission trip this past spring. He wants to be mentored for sure, he has said countless times how he has never had a positive…"
I agree to a point. You should compliment small improvements but then ask "Now what?". Celebrating each and every small improvement will prove to be counter productive as it will 'end' the improvements. …"
"Why is he dependent on you? What have you done for him? Whatever it is you need to stop it. As a mentor you're there more to guide him than anything else. As a mentor you need to hold him accountable. If he fails…"
"Some things are better "caught" than "taught". The young man whom you are mentoring has probably never seen a good example of strong, competent manhood in day-to-day life. In all likelihood, he doesn't know how…"
Always a problem with those kind of guys, especially when they seem to adopt you like their new mom. The problem is that Alex is mostly right. He needs to crash and burn and realize that he's being useless for himself. In that, you…"
Hello All,I am a senior in college and am having some major problems mentoring a freshmen. He has a lot of the typical problems that some men seem to have these days low confidence and self esteem, very passive, and dependent. All I seem to do is to motivate him temporarily, but no action ever comes from it. I also feel that he is becoming too dependent of me, and I am not sure how to find the balance of being able to mentor him making him more independent. Some advice from someone who…See More
Good Will Hunting, The Grey, The Tree of Life, Sunshine, X-Men 1st class.
Mainly instrumental stuff
“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
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"Funny, the gay guy I know who was so not the stereotype gave me the impression he was gay just so he could piss people off by calling them homophobes, especially his father who he said he hated.
Like you, I avoided him because it was unpleasant to…"
"I know I already said Don Vito, another one would be The Creature from Mary Shelley Modern Prometheous (Frankenstein).
Very compassionate, Vulnerable, Highly intelligent, and Justice seeking.
Excellent book worth hours of study and conversation."
I'm considering getting a punching bag for Christmas. I don't know why, just seems like something is enjoy. Come home after a long day at work, ease some frustration, get a work out in maybe?It's just that I really have no idea what I'm doing, I feel like its ignorant to think all it is going to take is knowing how to hurl a fist at an inanimate object. Is it all that much of a workout (among other things.) It should also be noted that I'm quite the novice when it comes to fitness. Is it worth…See More
"I agree, Ken. The stigmatization of body hair is a trend that tries to downgrade masculinity. Body hair is uniquely masculine and feminists despise anything that sepeates us from women. I shaved my chest one time in college and I hated it."