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Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
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Manliness - is that what we're fostering here?

I've been talking with my girlfriend about The Art of Manliness, and realizing that there's a danger to online communities like this. How many truly manly men are we creating/helping? Is there more manliness in just going out and doing things, instead of writing long posts about it?

Here are my thoughts on the matter:

Point: We are a community of men seeking to discuss the issues that we face and figuring out ways to help ourselves an
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Posted on May 8, 2009 at 12:25pm — 7 Comments

Stephen Young

Rugged Couture, Scene I: The Handkerchief

Walking through the forest on a cloudy spring day, finally having caught the cold that has been floating around, I find myself congested - yet still desiring to impress the beautiful girl walking with me. Fumbling around checking for a pack of tissues, I turn to her to see if she has any - no luck. With a runny nose, any chance of a kiss can be, well, kissed goodbye...

Enter the handkerchief.

This handy piece of cloth lost a lot of its popularity with the rise of products like Kleenex, whose a… Continue

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 10:30pm —

Stephen Young

Organizing Life, Scene I: The Notebook

Of all the tools in your arsenal, without a doubt the most important is your pocket notebook. Notebooks are the obvious precursor to PDA's and computers, and still have the upper hand in that they are quickly accessible, absolutely customizable and completely unique. No other technology will allow you to easily compile lists, sketches, calendars, notes, plans, links - exactly the way you want them.

Where to begin?


One of the most popular notebooks available is the mole… Continue

Posted on April 24, 2009 at 5:30am — 3 Comments

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Into the Forest, Scene I: The Quaking Aspen

Trees - we exploit them, and murder them en masse to meet our own ends, but don't realize their value, nor their importance. Though we cannot all be expected to chain ourselves to trees, we can at least appreciate the subtle beauties and practicalities of nearly everything the forest has to offer us.

The Quaking Aspen





Quaking Aspens are a ve… Continue

Posted on April 20, 2009 at 11:37am —

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You've taken the first big step, admitting your shortcomings is a move in the right direction. Sounds to me like you lack confidence. Why not take up martial arts? Physical training has a proven track record for making a man more "manly" over the ...
August 2
During an argument, if you're right, you're right. Be man enough to let knowing you're right be enough for you. Too often couples forget that there's an issue to be resolved at the core of an argument, and simply start trying to assert dominance ...
July 28
1. Have your own life outside of the relationship. 2. Take charge. Don't ever have the back and forth conversation of "I dont know, what do you want to do tonight?". Come up with a plan and follow through with it. 3. NEVER tolerate second class ...
July 27
My best advise is this: don't try to become a man by hanging out with her more often. She is not a source of masculinity. You need other men in your life, LOTS of men in your life, the kind that are living the way you hope to in the future. Go to...
July 21
I have a cheap old Old Navy messenger bag - student on a budget, so i can't afford anything else. It totes around notebooks, pens, laptop and occasionally food. It's getting worn and torn just the way it should, with ink stains and a well worn str...
July 21
Will your Grandkids fight over your leather bag when you're dead? Do people stop you to ask where you got your bag? This group is for people who love their bags, want leather maintenance tips or just want to share their personal bag story.
July 21
I don't think anyone likes dealing with confrontation, especially women (can I say that here?), hence the reason they make us crazy by not just tackling problems like we tend to do. My experience is that running from problems, avoiding them or le...
July 6
The book "Hold onto your NUTs," advertised and promoted here, is also a great resource. I think there's sections of it that directly address some of your concerns.
July 6
I dealt with my big issues *before* I got into the relationship -- and, in fact, I couldn't have done it the other way round. But that's me. Strongly suggest: Letters to Philip, on being a man in a marriage (most will apply to girlfriend stuff to...
July 3
Face it head on and talk with your girlfriend. For her part, she should be willing to meet you half-way in any serious discussion about your relationship. If she doesn't, she's got a little "manning up" (womaning up?) to do, too.
July 3
Walter Newells The Code of Man General principles of Manliness, aided by well educated research from biographies and classics (it also serves as an excellent reading-list generator for manly books)
July 3
Stephen Young added a discussion
Recently I've been going through some rocky times with my long-term girlfriend, and I can safely accredit a lot of this to my lackadaisical manner of life, which has included putting off issues that could be discussed later, and trading longer ter...
July 3
Stephen Young and Natalia T are now friends
May 13
I don't know how many women there are on this site, but I have to admit that I'm intrigued by the concept of this website. Since I am the catalyst for this post, I'd like to add a few of my own thoughts. My first impressions of this site are: a) i...
May 10
The main point of the counter points says that we should get out and do stuff. While I think that that is a good thing, it isn't always possible. There is such thing as a healthy balance of time spent online and in the real world. For me, what ha...
May 8
But we don't have to be all theoretical; let's also be practical. Discussing manly things *can* be useful (as well as fun). But is it being useful, to *you*? What have you gained from discussions here? In my case: not enough. I do gain a little m...
May 8

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