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Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship

Started this discussion. Last reply by John Schaefer Aug 2, 2009. 7 Replies

 

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Manliness - is that what we're fostering here?

Posted on May 8, 2009 at 12:25pm 6 Comments

I've been talking with my girlfriend about The Art of Manliness, and realizing that there's a danger to online communities like this. How many truly manly men are we creating/helping? Is there more manliness in just going out and doing things, instead of writing long posts about it?



Here are my thoughts on the matter:



Point: We are a community of men seeking to discuss the issues that we face and figuring out ways…
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Rugged Couture, Scene I: The Handkerchief

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 10:30pm 0 Comments

Walking through the forest on a cloudy spring day, finally having caught the cold that has been floating around, I find myself congested - yet still desiring to impress the beautiful girl walking with me. Fumbling around checking for a pack of tissues, I turn to her to see if she has any - no luck. With a runny nose, any chance of a kiss can be, well, kissed goodbye...



Enter the handkerchief.



This handy piece of cloth lost a lot of its popularity with the rise of products… Continue

Organizing Life, Scene I: The Notebook

Posted on April 24, 2009 at 5:30am 5 Comments

Of all the tools in your arsenal, without a doubt the most important is your pocket notebook. Notebooks are the obvious precursor to PDA's and computers, and still have the upper hand in that they are quickly accessible, absolutely customizable and completely unique. No other technology will allow you to easily compile lists, sketches, calendars, notes, plans, links - exactly the way you want them.

Where to begin?

One of the most popular notebooks available is… Continue

Into the Forest, Scene I: The Quaking Aspen

Posted on April 20, 2009 at 11:37am 0 Comments

Trees - we exploit them, and murder them en masse to meet our own ends, but don't realize their value, nor their importance. Though we cannot all be expected to chain ourselves to trees, we can at least appreciate the subtle beauties and practicalities of nearly everything the forest has to offer us.

The Quaking Aspen





Quaking Aspens are a very distinctive tree, with a white trunk that is broken by black 'scars'… Continue

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Stephen commented on Stephen Young's blog post Organizing Life, Scene I: The Notebook
"The Moleskine Van Gogh / Hemingway stuff always annoyed me. To begin with it's a bit of a so what (I use the same printer paper as the President, hurrah?) and even after that it's pretty much a lie since the books you can buy today are…"
Sep 18, 2011
Ryan Albright commented on Stephen Young's blog post Organizing Life, Scene I: The Notebook
"http://ecosystemlife.com/ ; These Notebooks are Made in the USA and 100% recycled material.  An alternative to the Moleskine, which is made in China and less often in Italy.  "
Sep 11, 2011
John Schaefer replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"You've taken the first big step, admitting your shortcomings is a move in the right direction. Sounds to me like you lack confidence. Why not take up martial arts? Physical training has a proven track record for making a man more…"
Aug 2, 2009
Andrew Barbour replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"During an argument, if you're right, you're right. Be man enough to let knowing you're right be enough for you. Too often couples forget that there's an issue to be resolved at the core of an argument, and simply start trying to…"
Jul 28, 2009
Peter O'Reilly replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"1. Have your own life outside of the relationship. 2. Take charge. Don't ever have the back and forth conversation of "I dont know, what do you want to do tonight?". Come up with a plan and follow through with it. 3. NEVER tolerate…"
Jul 27, 2009
Dave Kerwin replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"My best advise is this: don't try to become a man by hanging out with her more often. She is not a source of masculinity. You need other men in your life, LOTS of men in your life, the kind that are living the way you hope to in the future. Go…"
Jul 21, 2009
Stephen Young commented on Ryan's group Man Bags
"I have a cheap old Old Navy messenger bag - student on a budget, so i can't afford anything else. It totes around notebooks, pens, laptop and occasionally food. It's getting worn and torn just the way it should, with ink stains and a well…"
Jul 21, 2009
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Jul 21, 2009
Slacker replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"I don't think anyone likes dealing with confrontation, especially women (can I say that here?), hence the reason they make us crazy by not just tackling problems like we tend to do. My experience is that running from problems, avoiding them or…"
Jul 6, 2009
Sean Klein replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"The book "Hold onto your NUTs," advertised and promoted here, is also a great resource. I think there's sections of it that directly address some of your concerns."
Jul 6, 2009
Sir replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"I dealt with my big issues *before* I got into the relationship -- and, in fact, I couldn't have done it the other way round. But that's me. Strongly suggest: Letters to Philip, on being a man in a marriage (most will apply to girlfriend…"
Jul 3, 2009
Ethan G. replied to Stephen Young's discussion Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship
"Face it head on and talk with your girlfriend. For her part, she should be willing to meet you half-way in any serious discussion about your relationship. If she doesn't, she's got a little "manning up" (womaning up?) to do, too."
Jul 3, 2009
Stephen Young replied to Brian's discussion Legitimate Self Improvement Books
"Walter Newells The Code of Man General principles of Manliness, aided by well educated research from biographies and classics (it also serves as an excellent reading-list generator for manly books)"
Jul 3, 2009
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Need Advice: Becoming a Man in a Relationship

Recently I've been going through some rocky times with my long-term girlfriend, and I can safely accredit a lot of this to my lackadaisical manner of life, which has included putting off issues that could be discussed later, and trading longer term happiness for shorter term enjoyment, compounded with the fact that I am not terribly good at face-to-face discourse, and freeze up in conflict.I've been reading and trying to figure things out more (I would suggest The Code of Man by Walter Newell…See More
Jul 3, 2009
John Clanton commented on Stephen Young's blog post Manliness - is that what we're fostering here?
"The main point of the counter points says that we should get out and do stuff. While I think that that is a good thing, it isn't always possible. There is such thing as a healthy balance of time spent online and in the real world. For me, what…"
May 8, 2009
Sir commented on Stephen Young's blog post Manliness - is that what we're fostering here?
"But we don't have to be all theoretical; let's also be practical. Discussing manly things *can* be useful (as well as fun). But is it being useful, to *you*? What have you gained from discussions here? In my case: not enough. I do gain a…"
May 8, 2009

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