I had a friend go through a break up a few months ago and he told me the members on this site helped him quite a bit, so I thought I would give it a shot since I'm at a standstill. Prepare for a…Continue
"This entire tale reeks of emotional immaturity. I don't know your circumstances but you come off as being very young. Nothing wrong with that, as we all have been there. My advice would be to forget about any relationships for a time and spend…"
"YOU need to figure out what you want and who you want to be with. You're jacking these two 'girls' around and f*ing with their emotions. Stop. You're going to end up with neither the way you're going and…"
"Dear Ken (if I may),
First of all, let me say that - while reading the comments to your post - I was positively surprised to learn that you are only 20. I'm a university professor, so I deal exactly with people of your age, and I can tell you…"
"There is a principle which protects men from problems and makes the correct course of action clear in all situations. Unfortunately it takes a lot of work. Because of amount of work and self sacrifice involved, it is seldom even taught…"
"Honestly, neither. You don't like Girl B enough ... and Girl A doesn't like you enough.
You're doing the same thing to B that A did to you. And, its going to end for you just like its ending for B. A's going to…"
"there is one thing you have to know in life, this applies to work, relationships, everything.
YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S HAPPINESS. NO OTHER PERSON IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.
understand this and make decisions…"
"I completely agree. I wrote my long-ass post when there were zero responses and by the time I'd written it and posted, there were others before me. So I wasn't targeting my comments at you or anyone. I agree with all…"
"I believe that the relationship that you have built up in your mind is greater than the reality with this girl. Also, you are continuing to communicate with your ex-girlfriend, correct? Why? Also, which of these girls, if either, can you not live…"
"A lot of people with laugh at this post and deride you for it. The view of the older and wiser crowd is often to crack up at the younger, less experienced and troubles which seem inconsequential. But I guess I'm not older and wiser…"
"Mike nailed it, listen to him. You'll know if your'e with the one you want to spend your life with. I think I'd be surprised if either on of them are the one. Girl A isn't going to be the one when you the long-distance…"
"Hey, thank you for the quick reply.
You're right, I am young. I'm only 20. The amount of time I've known girl A (a pseudonym I only used so I wouldn't need to use her real name) has been all throughout highschool. So we have been…"
"You so very much need to hear the opposite messages.
You are worthy. You are strong. You are self-aware (based on your self-revelation here). You are smart (based on your school focus).
You are so worthwhile.
I hope you can find…"
"Yuck Man! No one should have to put up with that kind of primitive lack of hygiene! You gotta say something...it's already bothering you and hurting your relationship. It's bound also to be affecting your sexual relations with…"
"Oh, Max -- your story brought tears to my eyes. There is special trauma when a guy is sexually abused by a girl/woman (because many persons will say he is "lucky" since it was a female). But then to have that video made and…"