I have a progressive mitochondrial disease (MNGIE) that significantly affects mobility and brain function so have been dealing with a gradually worsening degree of disability for many years. I have…Continue
"FWIW, I have a disability as well, though admittedly, not nearly as debilitating as yours. I lost most of my vision shortly before I turned two years old, and medical science is unable to restore any of it and likely never will. My…"
"I concur that you, brother, are a man among men worthy of respect and honor, along with hanging and chewing the fat, being proud of your family and knowing that they are proud of you and having times of joy and levity to balance the burdens and…"
"hmm. i read the thing introducing "The strenuous life"
read the thing about 1 in 6 americans being on psychiatric drugs, and an "increase" in diagnoses of depression compared to people who survived the Great Depression.…"
"I don't really have anything new to add. I just wanted to add my voice of support and encouragement.
Part of manliness is doing what you can with what you have. Your "resources" are much more limited than any would want,…"
"One would imagine that you have accumulated something of knowledge via chronology. Perchance you could proffer something of such to the sons of aforemention. Examples of perseverance would likely also to possess worth.
The actions of a father…"
"This is one tough situation, and it is your norm, different and unique.
While I struggle with an old injury that is lately growing into a disability to walk without limping and hiking is a thing of the past, I am humbled by your story.
"I think there is inherently a sign that the link to the nobility of the concept of "being a man" has not left you in that you feel the urgency of trying to continue or redefine what it means to you.
Perhaps a good project would be to put…"
"My partner had to stop working and go on disability in 2010. He is slowly losing a number of his faculties. The way he puts it, when a man is young, his body is his tool-kit. He uses it to get stuff done. When we get old, its as if the body is…"
"I hesitate to comment at all, because I know what I don't know ... and I know precisely jack shit about living with a major medical condition like that.
But, against my better judgment, I'll make this suggestion -- do everything you can…"
"I'm so sorry you're going through this.
My father, in his old age, is losing all his abilities as well. At present he cannot get up, feed himself, or form a sentence. Yet I don't have any problem thinking of him as a man.…"
"Most men have dealt with (or will deal with) feeling masculine enough, the same as many women (most?) experience difficulty feeling feminine enough. So please know you are not alone.
The issue here isn't, though, "Am I masculine…"
"I can speak for my family - which contained at least 4 confederate soldiers in my immediate lineage.
I know they were opposed to slavery because they were buried in cemeteries in the Wesleyan Methodist churches they were baptized before the…"
"I don't want this to descend into a debate about the civil war. All I'm saying is I don't know what the common soldier was fighting for/thought they were fighting for, or what their family thought they were fighting for. In an age…"
"His history is extremely one sided. He completely ignores the fact that 4.5 slave states remained in the Union, 4.5 left the Union only after the attack on Fort Sumter, the same economic warfare England had used on the American colonies the North…"
"I think the thing about when neo-confederates pull out the "ordinary soldier didn't fight for slavery" argument is that few, if any, ever cite actual soldiers' words in support of this argument. Surely there are CSA soldier…"