Quick intro of me, I frequent this site a lot and finally decided to join to get some advice as I have no one else to really ask. I am 22 year old commuting to college and working part time. Live…Continue
"For now I have decided, because my options and funds are limited, to still live at home but never be there except to sleep and shower and laundry. I told my mom I would be leaving if she let him back, she got all upset and tries to guilt trip me but…"
"Thanks. Yes many times, and my girlfriend agrees, it seems I am the only one willing to do anything about it. My family usually just ignores things until it's too late, then they whine about it, but nothing changes. For instance NO ONE tried to…"
"Brian, I too have been thinking a great deal about Seth and his family's ordeal. After reading your response I struggle between the hero mentality of staying there to protect/put a barrier between the violent brother and loved ones, and getting…"
"Is the sane option always the right option ?
Every time I read in the paper of a child or a woman being beaten to death I always wonder where the real men are in these situations , in most cases it's a father or husband with a violent history ,…"
"You are absolutely in the right here.
Just keep in mind that it is very common, and normal for family members in situations like the one you described, to become angry at the members who decide to leave, or walk away, or even try to fix the…"
"Wow that was great. I really wish my family was as level headed and clear as this. Exactly that's what I try to tell them, he is almost 40 years old and can't seem to support himself. All she is doing is enabling him to live at home for…"
"Seth---I have not the other entries on this thread yet as I want to give you my own perspective. When things are topsey-turvey in a deranged situation, we need to step out of it and get our bearings by looking at what objectively normal reality…"
"Sorry to hear buddy, that's real tough. How old are you? I lost my father too, 2 weeks before I turned 19 to cancer. It was nasty, cancer is no joke. It wasn't fun to see him suffer through the years. It did help to know he wasn't in…"
"Well he has been in and out of jail many a times. In fact after he was kicked out (march 2012) by September he got arrested down in SC, one of my drama-loving sisters googled it. And he has been down there since at least then. My other sister went…"
"I tried the police route, I mentioned in response to Rick. They took him to the hospital and duped the doc's because they didn't see anything mentally wrong with him, depsite his long rap sheet and hospitalizations. I'm sure they just…"
"I sort of tried to the judge thing, well not directly to a judge. After the time I came down to him attacking my sister I went to the police the next day before work. I forget exactly what the form was called, but I had to write a statement of why…"
"I have about a year left of college until I will have my four year degree in Criminal Justice (ironic huh?) I actually have been looking for a second or full time job to save money up.
Hm oddly I didn't think about going to library or…"
"I am not a parent, not yet, nor, obviously, am I fearful of this threat. I know it exists, but all personal knowledge of illegal sex comes from older men targetting middle school and high school girls, not younger."
"I'd look into changing the permanence of the living-with-my-parents/ next-door-to-my-sister situation. Contact with nieces and nephews ain't quite as crucial when you have a family of your own to tend to ... but, its far…"