"With what things have you had successs? You're saying that as she realizes you're not enjoying her company, she becomes more tolerable? What do you make of that?"

"I'm in this club too. With my wife it's her anger. It's uncontrollable sometimes. I've had success with a few things but ultimately i kind of just don't feel like being around her. The more that she realizes it, the better…"

"Correction: My oldest son is seven."

"You want to help, but you do not what her to start thinking of you as the nanny. What you what her to see when you are helping out is James Bond changing a diaper. Try this: treat your wife like your mistress. No pecks on the cheek, long hard kisses…"

"Thank you everybody for the thoughtful posts. I've been devouring your insights, and appreciate your time. Sam saying "self-pity is poison in relationships" That's so true, and I may be internalizing a bit of that pity, since I…"

"I agree with everything you wrote. I have five kids, the youngest of which is seven, and situation you describe is familiar to me. Personally, my wife has been exasperated and exhausted many times over the course of the childrearing we've done…"

"You are right that women won't respect a doormat.  But, it is possible to be understanding without being a doormat -- without surrendering your manhood, or catering to her like some kind of servant, or just taking a beating.  It is…"

" Others have already mentioned help with chores, making sure parenting doesn't squeeze out alone time together, being extra supportive, and Post-Partum Depression. All of those are the types of suggestions that get the most air time in…"

"That's awesome!"

""Malt does more than Milton can,  to justify God's ways to man.""

"My wife sent this to me.  I was actually thinking along the same lines.  http://www.workingmother.com/me-time/5-steps-real-intimacy Things are different now, you have kids, it is a different mode.  Accept that and build stronger…"

"Welcome to the "club".  What you got going on is that brew up of she can't do everything she wants to do, you're both sleep deprived, and of course, you can't do any household anything exactly the "right"…"

"And Ryan, you know, it's not just about the chores, or being generally supportive. This is such an important time in your relationship -- in your life, and your wife's life -- you need to find that endless internal energy and channel it…"

"A note on chores: I know, I know, it's one of those feminine mysteries. But it's not enough to just do chores. You have to do the right chores. Maybe the dishes are nagging her. But maybe it's the laundry. Different people have…"

"The answer partially depends on how long ago the kid was born.  All mothers go through the baby blues for a while after the baby is born.  It is a combination of exhaustion, frustration, panic, occasional disappointment (being a…"

"I feel your pain."