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My wife turned into an alien after our first child

Started this discussion. Last reply by Sam Williams Nov 17, 2012. 21 Replies

For five years my wife and I courted each other. We loved each others company, whether it was a night on the couch with the TV, or grocery shopping. Wild sex in every room of the house, unbridaled,…Continue

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Started Feb 26, 2011 0 Replies

My wife and I had our first child a few months ago. A beautiful, healthy girl Savannah. We have baby books, DVDs and other media literally pouring off our bookshelves, but almost all of them dealt…Continue

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Sam Williams replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"With what things have you had successs? You're saying that as she realizes you're not enjoying her company, she becomes more tolerable? What do you make of that?"
Nov 17, 2012
Craig replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"I'm in this club too. With my wife it's her anger. It's uncontrollable sometimes. I've had success with a few things but ultimately i kind of just don't feel like being around her. The more that she realizes it, the better…"
Nov 16, 2012
Sam Williams replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"Correction: My oldest son is seven."
Nov 13, 2012
Ryan replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"Thank you everybody for the thoughtful posts. I've been devouring your insights, and appreciate your time. Sam saying "self-pity is poison in relationships" That's so true, and I may be internalizing a bit of that pity, since I…"
Nov 13, 2012
Sam Williams replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"I agree with everything you wrote. I have five kids, the youngest of which is seven, and situation you describe is familiar to me. Personally, my wife has been exasperated and exhausted many times over the course of the childrearing we've done…"
Nov 12, 2012
Jack Bauer replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"You are right that women won't respect a doormat.  But, it is possible to be understanding without being a doormat -- without surrendering your manhood, or catering to her like some kind of servant, or just taking a beating.  It is…"
Nov 12, 2012
Sam Williams replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
" Others have already mentioned help with chores, making sure parenting doesn't squeeze out alone time together, being extra supportive, and Post-Partum Depression. All of those are the types of suggestions that get the most air time in…"
Nov 12, 2012
Sam Williams replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"That's awesome!"
Nov 12, 2012
Native Son replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
""Malt does more than Milton can,  to justify God's ways to man.""
Nov 12, 2012
David F. replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"My wife sent this to me.  I was actually thinking along the same lines.  http://www.workingmother.com/me-time/5-steps-real-intimacy Things are different now, you have kids, it is a different mode.  Accept that and build stronger…"
Nov 12, 2012
Native Son replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"Welcome to the "club".  What you got going on is that brew up of she can't do everything she wants to do, you're both sleep deprived, and of course, you can't do any household anything exactly the "right"…"
Nov 11, 2012
mexico rosel replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"And Ryan, you know, it's not just about the chores, or being generally supportive. This is such an important time in your relationship -- in your life, and your wife's life -- you need to find that endless internal energy and channel it…"
Nov 11, 2012
Penelope replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"A note on chores: I know, I know, it's one of those feminine mysteries. But it's not enough to just do chores. You have to do the right chores. Maybe the dishes are nagging her. But maybe it's the laundry. Different people have…"
Nov 9, 2012
Jack Bauer replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"The answer partially depends on how long ago the kid was born.  All mothers go through the baby blues for a while after the baby is born.  It is a combination of exhaustion, frustration, panic, occasional disappointment (being a…"
Nov 9, 2012
Penelope replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"I agree with Will and Larry, except PPD can manifest up to 2 years after birth. Like most mental illnesses, it's highly treatable."
Nov 9, 2012
Sir replied to Ryan's discussion My wife turned into an alien after our first child
"I only know it from the other end.  I became much crankier about 2 years ago.  It didn't relate to babies, and I knew it was not her fault.  The fact that I had done so much personal-growth work helped a lot, because I knew that…"
Nov 9, 2012

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