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Losing out in a competition

Started this discussion. Last reply by Vendetta May 4, 2016. 21 Replies

Hey guys. I uh, I don't know, I'm writing here because this is the go-to website for me with problems of living, being a man, etcetera, and I feel like a complete failure recently; thought maybe you…Continue

Girl likes going to clubs; I don't

Started this discussion. Last reply by Al Salil May 21, 2015. 29 Replies

So there's this issue I'm having that might either have some deeper roots to it that I just can't put my finger on or it doesn't. It's pretty straight-forward, really: my girlfriend likes going to…Continue

Introduction to marketing

Started this discussion. Last reply by Milo Morris Mar 24, 2015. 3 Replies

Dear AoM friends,I'm a beginning entrepreneur, studying jewelry making under the watchful eye of my father with prospects of soon joining as a partner in the family business. Before I dive right into…Continue

International shipment fees on Amazon.com are killing me.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Red Garland Sep 15, 2014. 10 Replies

Hey guys, I'm having a little problem that I hope you could help me solve. First of all, thank you for bothering to read the thread and allow me to explain my situation. I want to purchase a few…Continue

 

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Vendetta replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"He's gotta live knowing you summitted the mountain first and thrust your flagpole into the ground before he did. Wonderful imagery, haha."
May 4, 2016
Justin replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"You can't live life in the past. This is a hidden blessing like someone mentioned.. you were freed from a shallow relationship going south and you got rid of a shitty friend. Dont think about it like losing a competition, because you were there…"
May 3, 2016
Red Garland replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Once again, thank you very much for your input. Throughout this time I've come to notice that getting out of such a rut is a one day at a time, one thought at a time, one feeling at a time sort of struggle - the symptoms come and go, there are…"
Apr 30, 2016
Shannon N. Clark replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"A lot of people can get distracted by what they think is a better life. She thought she needed the money and you thought you needed her. I have a feeling that things will probably flip around. She'll eventually figure out that the money…"
Apr 28, 2016
QuackXP replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"First off my apologies to the OP. I should not have posted only about grammar and not in such a negative tone. I used poor judgement that day and I am sorry. Reading through your post you are at where allot of us have been in the past. Sometimes…"
Apr 28, 2016
Vendetta replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"From what you told me there, it seems like you guys broke up for your own reasons and then she started dating your friend, which is completely different than what you had initially said. You led us all to believe that she broke up with you…"
Apr 28, 2016
The Dutch Dastard replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"I think one of the things you really have to let go is the whole 'rich' issue and the competition. A relationship isn't an object, it's not a prize for 'who is best'. Relationships are all about fit, and it seems pretty…"
Apr 28, 2016
IThinkThereforeImMan replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"You sound like you're experiencing a status defeat, so you should probably read through the sites' status articles. Also, you'd definitely stand to benefit from learning about stoicism and reading the 2 thumos articles on this site to…"
Apr 28, 2016
Red Garland replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Thank you very much for the warm words. The last sentence of your post is a maxim I find very true and you writing it is a good reminder. I'm 21 at the moment, so are the two of them. This has been a first serious realtionship I'd been in…"
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Yea all that."
Apr 27, 2016
Vendetta replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Kind of a dick move to shit on someone who is clearly down on themselves. Don't want to read it, move on and shut your trap."
Apr 27, 2016
Vendetta replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"I don't know you, but I am certain you are not a loser, a sucker, a failure, or a tool. You are simply a man that got broken up with in a shitty way - We all have our heartbreak stories. If the reasons she left you are as shallow as you think…"
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"I say be gentle on yourself.  You're already putting on a front for the people you know.  You don't have to shame yourself for feeling sad here -- at least, not for me.  Grieve as much as you need, and be done with it when…"
Apr 27, 2016
Tarquin Anstruther replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"There is somebody out there for everyone, hard to accept at the moment perhaps, but perhaps she was not the person for you at the end of the day. it doesn't say much for your friend though either!"
Apr 27, 2016
Native Son replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Suck it up, show a little "manly stoicism," and leave the self-pity party. Guys get dumped by girlfriends for what looks like a better deal all the time.  It's hard on the ego, but you'll live. Unless you become a hermit,…"
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Yes, it will, but likely not suddenly. Sorry you're going throught this. Better than finding out she was about the cash later (if that's true; I don't think we really can know), but yeah, sucks to be there. You won't be there…"
Apr 27, 2016

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John Muir replied to N. R.'s discussion How to Friendzone like a Gentleman?
"After I got married, I found out that I'd gone on many "dates" that I didn't realize were dates. I wouldn't worry about it. Be kind, be honest, don't lead anyone on, but don't worry about declaring any…"
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Southern Gent replied to N. R.'s discussion How to Friendzone like a Gentleman?
"Tell your friends how you feel. Also, tell them, thank you for their help, but please stop."
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Sir replied to David R.'s discussion "Iron sharpens iron" in the group The Great Debate
"I think i know what conclusion he wants us to draw.  I also don't think it's justified.  And surely that's important! "
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Pale Horse replied to N. R.'s discussion How to Friendzone like a Gentleman?
"The sooner you handle it, the easier it will be. Make sure she does have feelings for you. You don't want to make an ass of yourself. I think most men are in the exact opposite problem."
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How to Friendzone like a Gentleman?

Looking for some advice, or similar experiences from others here.  Sorry for the cheesy content.Just a little background, some of my friends are trying to set me and another friend of mine up. She's a very nice girl and I enjoy hanging out with her, but I just don't feel attracted to her in a romantic way.  At first I didn't do much about it, thinking that they would eventually get the point that I wasn't interested (I really didn't think that she had any feelings either).  Now it's to the…See More
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Lumberjoe replied to David R.'s discussion "Iron sharpens iron" in the group The Great Debate
""To do that, we'll need more data than OP provides." Of course. But you know what was being implied in colloquial / casual parlance ikn the OP."
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Liam Strain replied to Mongoose's discussion Regarding "Muslim Immigrant Woes" in Sweeden in the group The Great Debate
"Violent crimes would include gun violence. But yes, it's possible that gun violence is up, while other types of violence are down, leading to a net reduction in overall violence. Certainly none of these reports are doing much in the way of…"
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Mongoose replied to Mongoose's discussion Regarding "Muslim Immigrant Woes" in Sweeden in the group The Great Debate
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