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Losing out in a competition

Started this discussion. Last reply by Vendetta May 4, 2016. 21 Replies

Hey guys. I uh, I don't know, I'm writing here because this is the go-to website for me with problems of living, being a man, etcetera, and I feel like a complete failure recently; thought maybe you…Continue

Girl likes going to clubs; I don't

Started this discussion. Last reply by Al Salil May 21, 2015. 29 Replies

So there's this issue I'm having that might either have some deeper roots to it that I just can't put my finger on or it doesn't. It's pretty straight-forward, really: my girlfriend likes going to…Continue

Introduction to marketing

Started this discussion. Last reply by Milo Morris Mar 24, 2015. 3 Replies

Dear AoM friends,I'm a beginning entrepreneur, studying jewelry making under the watchful eye of my father with prospects of soon joining as a partner in the family business. Before I dive right into…Continue

International shipment fees on Amazon.com are killing me.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Red Garland Sep 15, 2014. 10 Replies

Hey guys, I'm having a little problem that I hope you could help me solve. First of all, thank you for bothering to read the thread and allow me to explain my situation. I want to purchase a few…Continue

 

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Justin replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"You can't live life in the past. This is a hidden blessing like someone mentioned.. you were freed from a shallow relationship going south and you got rid of a shitty friend. Dont think about it like losing a competition, because you were there…"
May 3, 2016
Red Garland replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Once again, thank you very much for your input. Throughout this time I've come to notice that getting out of such a rut is a one day at a time, one thought at a time, one feeling at a time sort of struggle - the symptoms come and go, there are…"
Apr 30, 2016
Shannon N. Clark replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"A lot of people can get distracted by what they think is a better life. She thought she needed the money and you thought you needed her. I have a feeling that things will probably flip around. She'll eventually figure out that the money…"
Apr 28, 2016
QuackXP replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"First off my apologies to the OP. I should not have posted only about grammar and not in such a negative tone. I used poor judgement that day and I am sorry. Reading through your post you are at where allot of us have been in the past. Sometimes…"
Apr 28, 2016
The Dutch Dastard replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"I think one of the things you really have to let go is the whole 'rich' issue and the competition. A relationship isn't an object, it's not a prize for 'who is best'. Relationships are all about fit, and it seems pretty…"
Apr 28, 2016
IThinkThereforeImMan replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"You sound like you're experiencing a status defeat, so you should probably read through the sites' status articles. Also, you'd definitely stand to benefit from learning about stoicism and reading the 2 thumos articles on this site to…"
Apr 28, 2016
Red Garland replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Thank you very much for the warm words. The last sentence of your post is a maxim I find very true and you writing it is a good reminder. I'm 21 at the moment, so are the two of them. This has been a first serious realtionship I'd been in…"
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Yea all that."
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"I say be gentle on yourself.  You're already putting on a front for the people you know.  You don't have to shame yourself for feeling sad here -- at least, not for me.  Grieve as much as you need, and be done with it when…"
Apr 27, 2016
Tarquin Anstruther replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"There is somebody out there for everyone, hard to accept at the moment perhaps, but perhaps she was not the person for you at the end of the day. it doesn't say much for your friend though either!"
Apr 27, 2016
Native Son replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Suck it up, show a little "manly stoicism," and leave the self-pity party. Guys get dumped by girlfriends for what looks like a better deal all the time.  It's hard on the ego, but you'll live. Unless you become a hermit,…"
Apr 27, 2016
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Losing out in a competition
"Yes, it will, but likely not suddenly. Sorry you're going throught this. Better than finding out she was about the cash later (if that's true; I don't think we really can know), but yeah, sucks to be there. You won't be there…"
Apr 27, 2016
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Losing out in a competition

Hey guys. I uh, I don't know, I'm writing here because this is the go-to website for me with problems of living, being a man, etcetera, and I feel like a complete failure recently; thought maybe you guys could tell me something that could help me out even a little bit. The reason for this is that my realtionship had broken up after over a year; I'd loved the girl very much and I took this thing very serious. But then I introduced her to an old friend of mine who comes from a very rich family,…See More
Apr 27, 2016
Al Salil replied to Red Garland's discussion Girl likes going to clubs; I don't
"+1"
May 21, 2015
Sir replied to Red Garland's discussion Girl likes going to clubs; I don't
"Actually, we like to have someone else handle being DJ, have someone else refill the drinks, and have a feeling of being out on a date.  If we thought people were payaing particular attention to our moves, we wouldnt like it."
May 21, 2015
Austin replied to Red Garland's discussion Girl likes going to clubs; I don't
"This is correct. Also, even women who aren't explicitly seeking to get laid are still trying to get the rush of being pursued and the ego boost of known that they still could get laid if they wanted. The "just to dance"…"
May 21, 2015

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