"dissapointed to see no one's posted in over 2 yrs! but I will anyways.
Most concise way i can describe it is..lather, rinse, repeat.
Mon-Thur = long hours in the labs/classes, eat, sleep
Thurs-sun = long hours partying,…"
"I think they are far superior to belts in the sense that they hold up a pair of pants far better and are much more comfortable to wear. I generally try to coordinate mine with the ties I am going to wear, not match exactly that is when…"
"Black pants are actually the worst choice.
Black makes you look like a waiter and is not at all versatile.
Charcoal is a far superior option. Strike black from your work wardrobe, unless it's a belt or shoes."
"If you go into the men's department at you local Nordstroms there is a style guide they have put out. Its about $20 and is chock full of useful information. How to buy a suit, difference between a sports coat and blazer, shirts, patterns,…"
"I have to agree about the undershirt. Grey is much better than white. If you don't believe me, go ask your wife/girlfriend about what color bra they would wear under a white shirt (or, if you don't have one of those currently, go ask at…"
"As an employer in my community I can honestly tell you dressing up for an interview makes a huge difference. I cannot tell you how many people turn in really good resumes and then show up for the interview in torn jeans and a t-shirt. I just want to…"
"I just can't bring myself to get behind the v-neck. I had a VP who swore by them (and nagged me until I wore them), following the rule of "a gentleman's undergarments should never be visible." I understand it, but I really thing…"
Interestingly, I'm not sure I have learned anything. I must be incredibly lucky or way more attractive than I thought (haha.... yeah right).
Anyways, what has seemed to work best with me when I am meeting them for the first time is not caring. If I don't care what the girl thinks about me, I tend to just be myself. And that's all it takes. I'm just being authentically me and not trying to be anyone else. What stems from that is a more relaxed and confident me. I was also kind of a dick when I first met her.
And to prove this wasn't a fluke, I also met a couple of ladies at Disneyland on Friday and acted the same way I did the first time. I could have easily gotten numbers and what not, but I didn't want to get a number and then be expected to use it. It's not fair to the girl I was originally dating (IMO) and it's not fair to the new girl either.
The date went well man. By the end of it we were just strolling with my arm around her shoulder or holding hands. It's moving well. Second date will be sometime next weekend. This weekend ended up being not possible because of logistics.
It's going decently well and I'm excited to see what's going to happen.
Thanks for getting back. The dinner was very FRIENDly. I wouldn't mind seeing if I could do something more with her, but I wouldn't want to make things awkward. She is a good friend, and I guess that's what she'll stay.
Disneyland was pretty dang awesome. My original plan was to go meet up with my friend, his girlfriend, and one of her friends. I also found out my best friend from San Diego was coming up, so I was going to spend a little time with him before the first friends showed up. First friends flaked, so I planned on spending time with Dan. Dan comes up with his friend, the friend's girlfriend, and the girlfriend's best friend. He deferred her to me, so I went in thinking, "Hey, this might be some good practice to see what I can do." Let's say that I did well, and now have her number. I'm aiming to take her out next weekend. :D
Last weekend my buddy had the idea to go to a bar to, "Pick up chicks." So we went to said bar and well.. that didn't work out so well. It was interesting to go and see what other people our age do to hit on women and well... I don't like it.
Last night, I went out to dinner with a lady friend. I have to say that it was definitely "just friends", but I wouldn't mind it being something else. I'll let this one play itself out.
Also, Friday I MIGHT be going to Disneyland with a friend, his girlfriend and one of her sorority sisters. This could be promising... We'll see.
"Brett McKay wrote a couple articles about male friendships up at the main AoM website. Here's the title and first paragraph from one:
Title: Making and Keeping Man Friendships
Several weeks ago we posted an article about the history and…"
"I don't see any solution; life for middle-aged, middle-classed white males like me is simply too busy and compartmentalized.
Well there has to be a "why" behind this; maybe uncovering the "why" this is, is the first step. If…"
Maybe this is just me, but one trend I tend to with people looking for someone to date or marry is some fixation on "common interests" or the other person "liking all the same stuff, e.x. music, hobbies, sports, etc" as me.To me this just seems... weird, and doesn't seem to jive with history; romantic relationships to me are primarily about attraction and love, and the specific 'activities' you do together aren't really that important, it's really about the bonding and connection.Not about a…See More
"Ha, good article on middle age.
I have some old friends. I have a wonderful wife, great family.
I enjoy people I work with (more or less), and my show has even brought me some limited notoriety locally, along with some awesome contacts in my…"