Hello all,Sorry if this is a long drawn out, convoluted post; I'm not that great at writing threads.I am currently studying abroad in Australia for the semester and am now single. I dated this girl…Continue
"Since you were together for a long time, it might be a good idea to wait several weeks, or even months, so that you have time to recover completely. In my experience, rebound relationships tend to turn out pretty badly."
"Do you truly care about how other people see your personal dealings? Is your love life the business of others? Do you want to live your life pleasing other people, or doing what's right for you?
You want to be with this girl.…"
"One more thing: any man who says he is shy around women is setting himself up for failure. DON'T.... EVER.... describe yourself as shy around women. Be more full of yourself. Be more confident, even arrogant if that suits you.…"
"When you do ask her out... make it clear that you want to go on a date, not just go out to coffee as friends. Never give her the impression that you're just friendly to her; eventually, you want to be with this person. So…"
"Honestly Nick just ask her, if it doesn't work out it doesn't work out. Better you know it now than dwell on this 'what if' for another few weeks.
Even if you hang out with that many people you are bound to be able to create a…"
"UPDATE: So this girl and I are kind of in the same friend group. There are like 2 or 3 other girls that me and a couple other guys hang out with, we all pretty much met here like a month ago so we're obviously not like best of friends. My…"
"Thanks for your input. I was beginning to think it was too soon but after making this thread I realized what I really thought deep down. Everyone here has been really helpful, and I thank you for that."
"I don't mean the girl that I think is cute. This girl probably doesn't even know the ex, there are a couple different schools in the program. I'm not worried what the girl I want to ask is going to think, but other people in the…"
"Why wait at all? Its a break-up, not a death. It was justified, and you'e over it. No need for a mourning period for a good idea. She didn't even wait 'til you broke -up ... and you're thinking about…"
"Just ask her out already. Who cares if she *might* think you are just going from girl to girl. You're putting words in her mouth without giving her the chance to make her own judgement about whether or not she would like to date you. Just do…"
"I understand where you're coming from and it doesn't bother me at all what she would think. I just don't want other people to get the wrong impression.
I get that no one here has magic they can give me and that it totally comes from…"
"At least I'm acknowledging them instead of pointing to words on a printed page, provided without context, and demanding my interpretation be accepted without question, investigation, or independent thought. Who was Moses' father-in-law?"
"Anyone who thinks that subtleties of verbal tone, which are by no means cut and dry, especially in an informal telephone recording makes the case a slam dunk for your interpretation - needs to reconsider how their own bias might be at play. "