Hey dudes. I have lurked here for awhile and enjoyed reading through the discussions but now I need to reach out and get some advice from anyone willing to listen.This is a woman-problem post, sorry.…Continue
"I know for me that's just how long it takes before I feel the housekeeping is out of control, and I can tie that to how often I like to do the heavy cleaning and the grocery store sales cycle. That is, it takes 2 to 3 months to realize…"
"Funny, that seems to be a tradition. My wife and I had been seeing each other for about 2 or 3 months when she told me that she wanted to 'cool things down a bit' and we shouldn't see each other. God, that hurt. I had, prior to her,…"
"I don't know if it was you, and it's not important enough to go back. I agree with what you're saying here. I just think this "spend your 20s doing all sorts of self-discovery, growth, and change; then you'll settle…"
I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you're talking about my comments. Just wanted to say sorry if you feel I implied that you fit my generalization. I agree that not all in their 20's have rocky relationships.…"
"Since people are both making generalizations and applying I fit them, and the cultural narrative behind those generalizations is hurting me (totally outside AoM) these days, let me say:
Finishing undergrad was not stressful for me. Professional…"
""There's nothing more to be accomplished by talking about that stuff" - sounds like you're getting it.
Interestingly enough, I'm deliberately entering a relationship right now that's just like the movie. Don't ask…"
I understand what you're saying and if I had of read it the first time it would have made sense and I would have definitely avoided talking about our relationship when she was over on monday night. I haven't heard from her…"
"Let her go. Don't answer the phone or stop-by. If she wants her space then you need to give it to her. If she questions you about it tell her that you have her best interests in mind and yours too and that seeing her makes you feel bad. You…"
This is why you should stick with it, and why she won't if you're too forward with her:
“In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn't fall in…"
Even if it doesn't work this time, you may now see what you did wrong, and you can fix it for next time.
Each relationship that doesn't work should only improve us to make the next one better. If you don't learn anything…"
"Ha, Yes, You should’ve read what I wrote first. BUT, now you get the picture, and you understand (by virtue of doing the wrong thing) what you need to do now.
Here’s your recovery action plan:1) Just say NO to serious texts. No more…"
"Yes, I've been there. And from my experience, women can sense a relationship's end before men can. Take a deep breath, take stock of yourself, and realize it's over. This is not a bad thing; You had the courage to love. In time, this…"
"fuck man, i wish i had of read this before she came over. everything was cool until the end where i asked her to clarify what the hell happened (diff words). things got awkward and it was basically like we broke up again.
i sent her a text a few…"
"What you are talking about is pretty typical. It sounds like you are both in what I call an infatuation phase. Being in love at this point in a relationship is like a chemical addiction. There is no good way to balance without being in at least a…"
"PS, When I was in your shoes, it came down to "I don't think this relationship is good for me right now". I said - "Thanks for the dance" - reference to "The Dance" by Garth Brooks. i.e. "I had a wonderful…"
"I'm sure you'll understand if I don't give a damn what you think about my approach to parenting. What would you know about it? Keep working on that "societal pressure" campaign. You might ought to bank a…"
"Hey, I wasn't the one who brought up Fascism, but when it reared it's ugly head I knee jerked the first one to come to mind. H was raised by a devout Catholic mother and a father who was a doubter. He was against the church, but he knew…"
"I was hurt by my grandparents and two cousins and one
father figure. I was abused from 4 to 15 on and off.
Some how I made it through the bad stuff. I was married at 21 and divorced at 33 and then married at 35 and divorced at 44. …"
"Ah, this is the way of religious. "I only surround myself with a bubble of things that enforce my beliefs. I will not expose myself to anything that threatens them, else the balloon might deflate."
I think you won't…"