"Welcome to the forums, Mike, and glad to see another young man (just turned 22 myself) on the path of self-improvement. Also, love the "syndrome" phrase. I might just use it down the road to explain why I've taken such a…"
"Alright iam going to be a dick who says it. You can try to be like Bond but you will not be him. The first reason is that he is a fictional idealised book/TV character. He never takes a shit, never says something stupid and never strikes out on a…"
"success along the way?
I think for past generations - our parents and grandparents, depending on your age - success was defined as making a better life for your children. We lost that perspective and are so self focused we can't imagine…"
"Mike - I honor your vulnerability in asking this question. I think the answers various men give that are a sign of how prevalent the 'boys in men's body' / Baskin syndrome is. Some men recognize it - others have no idea.
There is lots…"
"Being James Bond is a boy's dream, not a man's.
IMO, if Bond is your idol, you aren't ready to be a man. It's fiction. No one is completely satisfied with their career in the worst of times except one dimensional characters like…"
"Um, Bond isn't at the policy level. Bond is the blunt instrument of destruction with a refined gentleman's veneer.
He's literally the junior officer who boards the sinking U-boat with every intention of shooting anybody…"
"I don't think they had to wait years for most of it. I think they had a mentality of setting goals, setting resources to those goals and making it work, focused on those goal.
They also enjoyed success ALONG the way. The key…"
"Fantastic response, David. My dad was/is a Bond fanatic and I'm only now realizing why after years of thinking, "But...shouldn't he be more discrete as a secret agent?"
The thing I enjoyed about the restart is that it really…"
"Mostly basing it Craig's performance in Skyfall (which is especially interesting when you contrast that with his character in Casino Royale) but I've always considered Sean Connery as one of the classiest men in the world."
"I use the term Maxim Boys, but Baskins is about the same. The good thing is that the Maxim's market share is falling. The Maxim boy aesthetic is falling out if favor. It is no longer the ideal to sit on the kick it, drink…"
"But the effects of 4chan's efforts are impacting more people than just 4chan. It may not exist "to serve anyone" but it does have some responsibility, especially if it's providing cover and a vehicle for racists online and…"
"I'm not really buying it. If it's a joke, it's only a joke for 4chan members. The rest of the real world only sees what people do with it, and that's getting pretty damn terrifying. Might be time for 4chan to examine it's…"
"Mic is the website I linked you to that broke the milk story.
There's always idiots on the fringe who take a joke seriously. But that doesn't mean it started as, and still primarily is, a joke. There are people who legitimately think meme…"
"Journaling, counseling, reading relevant books, ManKind Project, Codependents Anonymous, talking here or IRL, inner child work... if it's a big enough deal to merit it, try everything in sight til something works."
"I concur with salt. If it's a traumatic event we are discussing, then I would say take the steps you need to put it behind you. In other words, if you cannot alter it then it's probably best to drive on...just my humble opinion."