I have both moved a across the country to be with someone and had someone move to be with me. In my case though, both moves held opportunity for both of us. To be blunt your situation sounds different. Maybe let me frame it this way.…"
"I have a itching feeling she just doesn't want to deal with the hustle and bustle of the city which I can't hardly blame her for... and NYC is almost 7 hours away from Buffalo so it's not exactly a convenient distance.
We have talked…"
"I'm with Stein, bud.
Besides, Western NY is a day trip from NYC, so what's the big deal for her moving? If she never wants to leave Batavia or wherever, then you need to decide if YOU never want to leave Batavia.
How often would you guys…"
"No. As my father would say, you need a kick in the arse. You got a job and your life is on the up and up and you are going to throw it away for what? If you guys have some special love then surely she can come to NYC so at least one of you have a…"
"To be honest this sounds like a 'first love' for both of you, and one in which there has hardly been enough time and opportunity for you two even to know one another, let alone have the depth of commitment (or even the emotional maturity)…"
"I understand not financing her education. I actually made an edit to show that she has actually found a solution for that.
I think the concern about 'falling in love with the idea' is legitimate but I'm inclined to think that that is…"
"This choice is souly up to you, but let me touch on my experience. I am only a little older than you (25) but had a similer experience in the fact that I was dating a girl for an extended period of time and got engaged. I was given the choice…"
"You have spent very little actual face time with this girl. The relationship has been rocky. You may love the idea of each other rather than really loving each other. The person who needs to step up to the plate for Nancy…"
"I don't know. I don't know how to know. I'll ramble a bit.
You had a falling out. If you had one, you'll likely have another. What will you do then?
You've only seen her about 10 times in the flesh.…"
The last time I asked the AOM community for help was roughly 2-3 years ago when I was a flighty college student trying to ground myself in preparation for the 'real world'.Fast-forward to now:I got a job immediately out of college (May 2010) and worked there for two years maintaining a great reputation in regard to friendliness, out-of-the-box thinking and a genuine work ethic. I dropped a number of bad habits and really grew into my adult identity. Recently, I had a falling out with someone…See More
"I'm 33 and still play a lot of video games. At around 30 I worried that I was getting too old to still be a gamer but I thought fuck it, if you enjoy it then who cares. As long as you keep your gaming within moderation I think it's a…"
"I work strange hours so I find a simple pleasure is to sit outside on my balcony at around 4-5AM just before first light and smoke a joint and read for an hour. Just the dead silence and time alone is a welcome relief.