Okay, first off, no abuse please. I find men are quite touchy about when a man complains about this, under the impression that the said man is 'ungrateful', or 'has something wrong with him'. So…Continue
"This.... Even as a young guy i've had some periods of low libido, even to the point of not wanting to have sex at all. For me the reason was pure stress..... Stress about other things, or stress about the relationship itself. Please don't…"
"I'm glad I found this thread. I've been dating my GF for nearly three years. I'm one lucky guy She's absolutely terrific. We live together, best friends, you name it. I think she's beautiful and sexy and I could easily…"
"This does not sound good!
Of course, go ahead and talk with her, as others very well suggested! If you two manage to get some comunication on the matter, I'm sure you can have a much better sex life.
3 years is a big relationship and not having…"
"My 2 pence:
I had a similar situation with my ex-girlfriend. She was gorgeous and we were both into eachother, both physically fit and had plenty of opportunity. It just didn't happen - for quite a while.
We eventually put it down…"
"Kinda hoping the meat-as-libido-suppressant thing is true. I'm very carnivorous, and the wife can barely satiate me as it is ... I rather like the idea that this is me with my libido 'suppressed'. Heh.
"Lack of drive could be a result of diet. Less meat, more veggies and fruit, and you might see a difference.
Also, if you look at porn, stop. I don't think I had an addiction, but I gave up looking at porn at my wife's…"
"I agree with most of the things said. The macho man talk you have heard most of your life has led to you thinking there is something wrong.. which might be the case or it could be something normal such as when the new wears off passion is not self…"
"I agree with Allen.
My take is as follows.
Congratulations on being with her for three years. Your hormones are probably changing to more of a married state. You need to talk to her about what is going on. Be clear that this is not…"
"Talk to her about what's going on or you will both just be frustrated. In my own experience, stress at work, lack of sleep (Why am up right now? This is the last thread I am commenting on...), and lack of working out regularly usually…"
"No abuse from me; totally empathize with your situation.
Sometimes many physical things that are supposed to be pleasurable just annoy the hell of out me; eating and sex included. It's usually a sign some I'm stressed/freaked out…"
"Umm, sounds to me like you're not dating her, you're married to her. Lol, trust me man, we all get there eventually. Depending on her, and the timing you bring it up, as others have said, talking things through, changing things up, etc.…"
"Couples should totally communicate about what they want in their relationship, and the sooner the better, though I think there's no need to draw up a contract.
But there's also no need to let whatever's prevailing in society be your…"
"It's either this guy is an installed computer bot with some sort of typing script or the guy has herpesviral encephilitis that causes him to not be able to make new memories and repeat his days doing the stuff mentioned above."
"There is a writer's group on AoM, actually. I suggest you join and ask there.
I am also a writer. I don't consider myself an authority, but I can repeat some good advice about pacing, at least at the outset, which is to say that the…"