Okay, first off, no abuse please. I find men are quite touchy about when a man complains about this, under the impression that the said man is 'ungrateful', or 'has something wrong with him'. So…Continue
"This.... Even as a young guy i've had some periods of low libido, even to the point of not wanting to have sex at all. For me the reason was pure stress..... Stress about other things, or stress about the relationship itself. Please don't…"
"I'm glad I found this thread. I've been dating my GF for nearly three years. I'm one lucky guy She's absolutely terrific. We live together, best friends, you name it. I think she's beautiful and sexy and I could easily…"
"This does not sound good!
Of course, go ahead and talk with her, as others very well suggested! If you two manage to get some comunication on the matter, I'm sure you can have a much better sex life.
3 years is a big relationship and not having…"
"My 2 pence:
I had a similar situation with my ex-girlfriend. She was gorgeous and we were both into eachother, both physically fit and had plenty of opportunity. It just didn't happen - for quite a while.
We eventually put it down…"
"Kinda hoping the meat-as-libido-suppressant thing is true. I'm very carnivorous, and the wife can barely satiate me as it is ... I rather like the idea that this is me with my libido 'suppressed'. Heh.
"Lack of drive could be a result of diet. Less meat, more veggies and fruit, and you might see a difference.
Also, if you look at porn, stop. I don't think I had an addiction, but I gave up looking at porn at my wife's…"
"I agree with most of the things said. The macho man talk you have heard most of your life has led to you thinking there is something wrong.. which might be the case or it could be something normal such as when the new wears off passion is not self…"
"I agree with Allen.
My take is as follows.
Congratulations on being with her for three years. Your hormones are probably changing to more of a married state. You need to talk to her about what is going on. Be clear that this is not…"
"Talk to her about what's going on or you will both just be frustrated. In my own experience, stress at work, lack of sleep (Why am up right now? This is the last thread I am commenting on...), and lack of working out regularly usually…"
"No abuse from me; totally empathize with your situation.
Sometimes many physical things that are supposed to be pleasurable just annoy the hell of out me; eating and sex included. It's usually a sign some I'm stressed/freaked out…"
"I think Native Son nailed it. I'll go further. Not only are these things not taught in schools, there are few apprenticeships, and few fathers willing and able to teach this (many reasons). I'd dare say that in some…"
"Ok, everyone is saying to read a lot, and that is certainly true. But write also. How about writing about that child you're bringing into the world? Notebook it or blog it. Becoming a dad has been the best experience I have ever…"
"Literally millions of hobbies to take up. Carpentry, plumbing, gardening, car care, electricity, cooking, athletics, reading. You are on the right track already. Exercise extreme patience with the boys or they will hate being…"
"Points for you to ponder: Have you forgiven her? Has she forgiven herself? Now, have you forgiven yourself? (What? But I...) Sush, just shush. Think about how you reacted to the news. Turmoil may have caused you to…"