I've been with this girl for 14 months. She moved in with me and my family to get away from her abusive / neglectful family. We took her in and provided for her the things her family wouldn't even…Continue
"That's right. Get out, and spend time with your family and friends, and give them your attention. Get out of your own head for a while. It will be a relief, and it will stop you from brooding over things in an unhelpful frame of mind. BTW,…"
"First, nothing will make it go away quickly. If you were someone who could get over her in a day, you'd be someone who didn't love deeply. Celebrate the way you miss her -- and hope you don't lose that loving nature.
"I appreciate all the advice and Rob you hit the nail on the head.
It's been a day and it's slightly better. The biggest problem, as my mom even put it, is that she's a habit. Waking up and not seeing her is really hard, as is…"
"As many have said: Embrace the hurt. I've come from a long and painful relationship and somehow I did not let it affect me much. It was so very wrong.... Allow yourself to be miserable and angry. Be angry at the situation. Do whatever…"
"Sorry to hear about your hurt, Bud.
It sounds as though this relationship was doomed from the start. From what you have said about her past, she is likely to have entered your life with problems that needed to be resolved before she was ready for a…"
"Good tips so far. And I have found that handling the emotions head on as opposed to fighting them has truly helped. That, and as others said, time. It's still just hard to let it be when we've been through so much and shared so much. I…"
"Your words remind me exactly of this song. Sometimes a sad song is healing.
Feeling this way happens after breakups. I know it did for me. In terms of hard advice, one thing you have to realize is that she's an adult and will make her own…"
"For the time being, get angry, cry, listen to music that reminds you. It is going to hurt no matter what. Embrace it for a week or so, don't fight it. Allow yourself some time to deal with it, then set a schedule of what you want to change and…"
"Incidentally, you mentioned "very depressed." If that is the case, you do need to see a professional.
Remember: depression is a complex medical condition which affects multiple systems and processes. ONE symptom of depression is that it…"
"A) There is no "foolproof" way. Humans are all individuals, and we all have different motivators. Therefore, none of us can present you with a foolproof way.
B) Ask yourself: "Who is an expert in tweaking personality traits?"…"
"Re: "school kills...creativity:"
After one has mastered the task at hand, the student can be as creative with the skill as possible. But, while learning the task, it is a necessary fact that the learning be very controlled (appearing less…"
The older I get the less time I want to be around / spend time with / listen to / talk with / argue with / Fs and Is. Any more I give them a courtesy listen then move on. This includes guys at work and even some former friends. I guess I just don't care that much anymore. Yes, I have a wide variety of friends. I just feel I want my life to be a little more contented. BTW It seems like it is almost always men. Life is not always hard but it can often be difficult.See More
"I feel like school kills most of any sort of creativity, even in those classes, and I only did the bare minimum to pass. I did okay in those classes, but wasn't particularly interested in them due to the structure. But my opinion is that modern…"