"+100 on this. Exactly like setting a budget, you need to get real about where you expend your time and energy (not where you think you do, or wish you did, but actually do). Then you can figure out strategies to work through it. "
I was in much the same situation a few years ago: dad working but in poor health; mom largely bedridden (and miserable and quite demanding).
A couple questions:
(1) How old are your parents?
(2) What does your personal support structure look…"
"For casual my defaults are a shirt with a collar, dark blue jeans and brogues or oxfords.
Add that vest and you have a light warm layer and a place for your phone.
I work in IT so I can ware it to work also. I just…"