Hello AoM brethren, In regards to the title of this post, I'm referring to those children who are without a father figure...a result of a lapse of judgment rather than of divorce. I'm 35 and have a…Continue
"I too made some financial mistakes in my past...
Without knowing the details (nor do I want them) of your finances it's hard to point you in a specific, calculated direction. I would start with just paying the basics first and…"
"thanks for all the advice...this site is great!
I've starting to just have him over at the house a little more. His mother jumps at the chance to drop him off. I should have been a little more clear on the boys biological…"
"So, let me get this straight. Your Mother in law had a child nine years ago, and the implication is that she's single, and the boy's biological father left.
Your Mother in law wants you to be a surrogate father.
"I've never 'met a Phore' before.
N+1 kids, no you are correct about raising N and N+1, it does take more time but the 'additional' time is less than when N = 1.
I am not sure what I would do in this situation. I…"
"Definitely, most definitely. Talk about future issues. You're his brother-in-law not his father or mother. If the mother and father weren't willing to take on the job of raising the child why did they have him? …"
"I think you need to talk to her about the disciplinarian part. She will raise a holy terror if she thinks she does not need or can not do that part of raising a child.
One of the mothers at my son's school keeps trying to try to…"
"But it's not a bulldog and it isn't taking food from his children's mouths. Simply including this kid into the daily life of his family; taking him on outings with the kids, etc. Not sure about the disciplinarian thing…"
"As JonE would say "Sack up". If you want the kid to be a cautionary tale then keep on with what you're doing. He's family, he is your problem by marriage. I am surprised your wife isn't in on this one…"
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