"John Smith, it's not a big thing to organize home actually I want to appreciate you about your interest in maintaining the home because most people I am talking about "MALES" we do not do home chores because we have our own jobs and…"
"I second the Power of Now. You don't even have to read the whole book to grasp the idea - that it all - everything, is right here right now, The past the future are all distractions.
Stay in the moment and enjoy all that it…"
"Well put, JB. I remember well when I was put into my very first leadership position (assistant manager at a fast food restaurant) that was over those who had been my peers. I was not at all confident those I had joked around and partied…"
"Confidence is earned. Do things that scare you, and they will scare you less-and-less every time. There's no shortcut. There's no way to become confident without being uncomfortable. There's no way to become unafraid without standing…"
"I really appreciate the feedback on this issue, guys. Thank you.
You're all correct in saying that there's a lot of nuance here: a lot of this is about personality, upbringing, and temperament.
What I'm looking for is a quiet,…"
"This is a very loaded question and a good one. Can you really change the way in which you were raised, and is there anything truly wrong with being a conflict avoidance type of person.
In my opinion avoiding conflict can lead to never…"
"I don't know if iam to one to speak for that, since my method of solving conflicts is in 90% of the time to solve them in a kind/cooperative way.
First of all think about, what you actually want to achieve when entering a conflict.…"
"If you find out please let me know.
I find it way more than an intellectual exercise, or a matter of practice, like mastering chess or a strong backhand.
Needs to go way deeper in the psyche, with roots that go way down to the original programming…"
"Not sure if those two examples are the same thing. In the DMV I'm guessing you didn't want to risk having the guy fight you. In the second you're upset because you aren't assertive enough.
If the first is your issue then maybe…"
Gentlemen,I grew up in a household where I didn't see conflict modeled in healthy, open ways. "Conflict avoiders" would be the best way to describe my family. As such, I'm a very "nice guy" and while I'm by no means a total push-over, I have noticed a frustrating pattern in my life:When faced with conflict, my knee-jerk is to avoid it.Here's an example: I'm standing line at the DMV the other day and a man is blaring his cell phone...talk radio. It was annoying everybody around and I immediately…See More
"As far as life coaches Tony Robbins is bar none, top tier, the best. As a writer, he's meh...okay. Watch his old, old stuff on youtube where he's like 20 something years old whereing a full suit with suspenders, it's much better than…"
I recently watched the Netflix documentary on Tony Robbins ("I am not your guru"). It was my first introduction to him. I would be curious to hear if anyone of you have read any of his books? I was particularly struck by his confidence and ability to be completely vulnerable while maintaining strength. Would love to hear your experience with Tony if you've had any.See More
"Man, I definitely hear you on this... it takes a while to overcome.
Two quick recommendations for you:
1. Set up an "inbox" system. Basically, it's just a box or a tray - if you leave stuff everywhere, you or your wife just puts it…"
"First learn to put your dishes in the sink. It takes less time then handling it twice.
Next organize your stuff. Find a place for it. Designate it and get used to putting it back. Its hard to build the habit to put your stuff…"
"With a divorce that fresh, he may still be in pain and the holidays will amp that. He may be burying his stress into work. My best suggestion is to point out to your beloved that people are twits and he may just be being silly.…"
"Regarding her feelings: listen, care, and don't fix her.
But if I had an in-law acting strangely, I'd be concerned. It could mean "No, don't include me, I'm going to be in Malawi herding goats"; "No,…"
"You are certainly correct that there's not enough info for the wife to determine intent and extent. But the emotions she is feeling are still valid emotions (of course).
Good point about the red flags. There's a possibility that he may…"
"This could be a simple miscommunication. There isn't enough information here to determine whether there is a definite issue or not. Is the father actually going to be stateside during Christmas? Is your fiancee spending the…"
"I'm sure this truly cut her deeply. It may be better to ask her what you can do to help her feel more supported. Sometimes, just asking how you can help can be supportive in itself. Let her know you are willing to support her.
I suspect you are…"