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Finding a father-figure.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rob Dec 16, 2012. 16 Replies

Hello everyone! I really don't know where to begin. You see, things between me and my father are fine, I guess, but it doesn't feel like we have a real dad-son relationship. He's a little detached,…Continue

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Rob replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Then do the "empathy building" meditation. Johann, are you familiar with that one? It's where you sit and think about people whom you know, and their suffering and disappointments in life. Generally you start with a friendly…"
Dec 16, 2012
Tor replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"I wish I had some golden advice for you, but the best I’ve got is to say I relate. My father and I speak every day and see each other about once a week. That would appear like we are close, but most of our interaction is predicated on…"
Dec 15, 2012
Beowulf87 replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"I certainly know the need.  I found a man who is kind of my mentor, and as I do not have a father at all in my life, it works well.  It may take some time.  Friend, pastor, teacher?  Just keep your eyes open."
Dec 9, 2012
Will replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
""I can't seek the help of any of the youth leaders or pastors or whatnot, since it's apparently frowned upon to be what I call a Buddhist-Christian." That reason would surprise a lot of youth leaders, etc. I suggest you reverse…"
Dec 8, 2012
Harry P Flashman replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"With those exeptions to core material (meat eating and reincarnation) if I`m understanding it correctly, wouldnt the rest of it fit just fine into Christianity ?  I am a bit hazy on the Buddist bits, but have some recollection of the 4 core…"
Dec 8, 2012
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"Southern Hemisphere. :)"
Dec 4, 2012
Saxon replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"If you are into meditation, which you probably are, know that research has shown it to be very effective (probably the most powerful of mind tools) for all groups except one: people with withdrawal problems. If you have a tendency to withdraw, you…"
Dec 4, 2012
Nick H replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"I should read the other first but I don't have time at the moment and I wanted to share my comment. Apologises if I am repeating anyone. I don't know if its a father-figure you want or a mentor. A mentor is something we all need in…"
Dec 4, 2012
Johann replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Thank you for your advice. Your last paragraph really struck me. It's not something I care to admit, but I tend to manipulate and influence; something to be worked on. Thank you, again! Your advice really helped!"
Dec 4, 2012
Johann replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Definition: I am a Christian, full on, but I hold many Buddhist values and ideals. I do eat meat, unlike 'regular' Buddhists, though. As for reincarnation, I don't really know. I feel that it is not important to worry how the spirit…"
Dec 4, 2012
Johann replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Thanks for your advice. It did help. I understand that these things take time. I'll give a shout if I need to talk. :)"
Dec 4, 2012
Johann replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"I see what you mean, and thank you. I do tend to become emotionally detached and cold. I will look into your advice. Thank you! :)"
Dec 4, 2012
Harry P Flashman replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Please define "Buddhist-Christian" ? I do believe I see where you`re coming from in your post but if I shall be outspoken, have you contemplated dialogue instead of monologue ? My eldest are in his mid teens and we can talk more or less…"
Dec 3, 2012
Matt replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"I understand your feeling, my father was someone emotionally distant and starting from a young age he wanted nothing to do with me. I was even told later in life that he proved to be jealous of me, since I took the attention away from him with my…"
Dec 3, 2012
Saxon replied to Johann's discussion Finding a father-figure.
"Your quest is a good one, and you are going about it in a gentle yet firm way. Which means: you really are on your way already! And no, you do not sound whiny; did you fear we would reject you for sounding whiny? I do not know you, but you give me…"
Dec 3, 2012
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Finding a father-figure.

Hello everyone! I really don't know where to begin. You see, things between me and my father are fine, I guess, but it doesn't feel like we have a real dad-son relationship. He's a little detached, or perhaps I'm a little reluctant. Either way, it doesn't work. I have tried to strengthen our relationship, but to no avail. I have talked to quite a few people I felt comfortable with. These include teachers and youth leaders. It felt to me like they too were uninterested or emotionally disabled,…See More
Dec 3, 2012

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At 12:37am on December 4, 2012, Rockeman said…

Welcome, Johann.  I hope we meet and exchange conversation soon.  :)

 
 
 

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