Hello everyone! I really don't know where to begin. You see, things between me and my father are fine, I guess, but it doesn't feel like we have a real dad-son relationship. He's a little detached,…Continue
"Then do the "empathy building" meditation.
Johann, are you familiar with that one? It's where you sit and think about people whom you know, and their suffering and disappointments in life. Generally you start with a friendly…"
"I wish I had some golden advice for you, but the best I’ve got is to say I relate. My father and I speak every day and see each other about once a week. That would appear like we are close, but most of our interaction is predicated on…"
"I certainly know the need. I found a man who is kind of my mentor, and as I do not have a father at all in my life, it works well. It may take some time. Friend, pastor, teacher? Just keep your eyes open."
""I can't seek the help of any of the youth leaders or pastors or whatnot, since it's apparently frowned upon to be what I call a Buddhist-Christian."
That reason would surprise a lot of youth leaders, etc. I suggest you reverse…"
"With those exeptions to core material (meat eating and reincarnation) if I`m understanding it correctly, wouldnt the rest of it fit just fine into Christianity ?
I am a bit hazy on the Buddist bits, but have some recollection of the 4 core…"
"If you are into meditation, which you probably are, know that research has shown it to be very effective (probably the most powerful of mind tools) for all groups except one: people with withdrawal problems. If you have a tendency to withdraw, you…"
"I should read the other first but I don't have time at the moment and I wanted to share my comment. Apologises if I am repeating anyone.
I don't know if its a father-figure you want or a mentor. A mentor is something we all need in…"
"Thank you for your advice. Your last paragraph really struck me. It's not something I care to admit, but I tend to manipulate and influence; something to be worked on. Thank you, again! Your advice really helped!"
"Definition: I am a Christian, full on, but I hold many Buddhist values and ideals. I do eat meat, unlike 'regular' Buddhists, though. As for reincarnation, I don't really know. I feel that it is not important to worry how the spirit…"
"Please define "Buddhist-Christian" ?
I do believe I see where you`re coming from in your post but if I shall be outspoken, have you contemplated dialogue instead of monologue ?
My eldest are in his mid teens and we can talk more or less…"
"I understand your feeling, my father was someone emotionally distant and starting from a young age he wanted nothing to do with me. I was even told later in life that he proved to be jealous of me, since I took the attention away from him with my…"
"Your quest is a good one, and you are going about it in a gentle yet firm way. Which means: you really are on your way already! And no, you do not sound whiny; did you fear we would reject you for sounding whiny?
I do not know you, but you give me…"
Hello everyone! I really don't know where to begin. You see, things between me and my father are fine, I guess, but it doesn't feel like we have a real dad-son relationship. He's a little detached, or perhaps I'm a little reluctant. Either way, it doesn't work. I have tried to strengthen our relationship, but to no avail. I have talked to quite a few people I felt comfortable with. These include teachers and youth leaders. It felt to me like they too were uninterested or emotionally disabled,…See More
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All suffering is rooted in desire.
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"Not "other people". "ALL other people". ALL who have EVER lived. Not one single exception. 108,000,000,000 people have lived. ZER0 have not died. Subtract the 7,000,000,000 currently alive if you like. 101,000,000,000 to 0.
"It does, but reality happens every second of every day. Why assume that perfection is not possible? You have that idea in your mind but you do not question it. You have only one life to live, why can't it be in paradise? If not now, then make…"
Hi all,Have been thinking of relationships recently and as I didn't grow up with happily married parents I didn't have a good role model to understand what they are about.But a theory I have is that a relationship is not so much about the person you are together with, it's more about having a commitment to the relationship itself. So it doesn't matter so much whether your wife annoys you or pleases you, whatever happens you are committed to the idea of being togeher and forming this…See More
"I see some readers would like a shorter version. Okay, to summarize, basically if you could create your own paradise, what would it be like? And, do you genuinely think you know yourself well enough to know what that paradise really would…"
"Your argument collapses if I never die though right? And since, I have never before been dead, why should I assume that I will? Just because other people have? I am my own individual, all that is, exist because I have perceived it to…"
"Thank you sir. I do strive to be original. Frankly, many of the posts I have read seem rather mundane and petty, some of them. I think it is important to question one's sense of reality, as it can lead to greater insight into what this all…"