Jerry Perez
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Some family issues I need advice on

Started this discussion. Last reply by David F. Dec 17, 2013. 13 Replies

Ok, so a little background:My mom (traditional mexican culture) has a difficult time understanding that she cannot just say or do what she wants without anyone saying anything. it comes down to more…Continue

Double razor isn't for me...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Ben Dec 5, 2013. 8 Replies

After about 4 months of trying every method, product, blade and technique out there, I've come to the conclusion that double edge safety razor shaving isn't for me. My skin doesn't take well and I…Continue

The instinct of fatherhood

Started this discussion. Last reply by Adrian Miranda Nov 5, 2013. 7 Replies

So my first son was born just last week (october 29) and even though it was a crazy experience with my wife (emergency c section and some complications), we are so happy with our little guy. One…Continue

Some advice needed. Maybe some encouragement too.

Started this discussion. Last reply by David F. Sep 17, 2013. 7 Replies

Well i'm sure i'm not the only who has been a victim to the economy and it has been tough. I got laid off from a great job about 2 years ago and it's been a struggle ever since. I've gotten laid off…Continue

 

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Jerry Perez replied to Augustin's discussion Home workout for beginner
"I know there's a lot of information out there but this is the workout i'm currently doing to prepare myself for whenever i get a call to start the fire academy and it's been kicking my…"
Dec 17, 2013
Jerry Perez replied to Morgan Land's discussion Dealing with gym anxiety
"I'll resonate what everyone else said: the fact that you're there, working hard and trying to improve yourself is a much bigger message than how much weight you can lift. You'll find that most the people who you are…"
Dec 17, 2013
David F. replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"Fair warning, its your parents.  You will never have closure.  You will have episodes, good and bad.  That is life. "
Dec 17, 2013
David F. replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"My wife started getting along with my mother (who is German)  much better after my wife took some German classes.  It was a cross cultural issue with how my mom phrases things.  I grew up with it so I did not see it as much.  My…"
Dec 17, 2013
Vytautas replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"I don't think you were wrong in handling the meeting by yourself. One thing that will probably help your wife gain closure is an apology from your mother, since it was she who insulted your wife. If your mother acknowledges her wrongdoing and…"
Dec 16, 2013
Jerry Perez replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"Well, i sat down with my parents yesterday and had the talk. At first, i wasn't gaining much ground but i continued to, like one poster here suggested, sound like a broken record and established that i am a man first, husband second, father…"
Dec 16, 2013
Regular Joe replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"PS: I think the hispanic drama flare is probably a lot like the French-Canadian drama flare. Lots of loudness, lots of talking with hands, lots of references to Jesus, etc. ;)"
Dec 16, 2013
Regular Joe replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"Are you an only child? Or the oldest child in your family? That could be it. It's hard for a mother, who has spent your entire life being your mother, suddenly letting go of that role and identity. Your mom needs to understand that she is still…"
Dec 16, 2013
Will replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"I suggest a firm wall of niceness.  Thingslike, we dint talk thqt way here.  Add in some broken record, as in, Sorry you feel that way, but i dont let people insult my wife.  thats interesting, but i dont let people insult my wife.…"
Dec 13, 2013
Ldeth replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"By the description you've given of the scenario I would say you were in the right. You let your mother know that what she said was not courteous of her to say. Unless you used foul language towards your mother or called her names, then I could…"
Dec 13, 2013
Terry replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"As far as approaching the conversation, I think the most important thing is to focus on solutions and compromise.  It sounds like from her perspective, you attacked her character by telling her that she meant to demean your wife's ability…"
Dec 13, 2013
Jerry Perez replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"regular Joe..... That's a good plan. I am definitely not having problems deciding who will be mad at me: My wife is first and i would rather have my parents upset at me as opposed to my wife. and you're right, it might not be a…"
Dec 13, 2013
Jerry Perez replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"Terry, I like your point of view. i was leaning towards a face to face meeting but here's a bit more background on my history with my mom: being the oldest, we've always had a not bad, but slightly rough relationship. Regardless,…"
Dec 13, 2013
Regular Joe replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"Give your dad the full picture and explain to your dad that the way your mom feels right now as a result of your comments is probably the same way you and your wife feel as a result of your mom's comments. See where that takes you.   And…"
Dec 13, 2013
Terry replied to Jerry Perez's discussion Some family issues I need advice on
"I'm no expert.  I've only been married a very short time, but I'll give you  my impression of the situation.   Have you and  your mother always had arguments like this?  Perhaps her feelings that you're…"
Dec 13, 2013
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Some family issues I need advice on

Ok, so a little background:My mom (traditional mexican culture) has a difficult time understanding that she cannot just say or do what she wants without anyone saying anything. it comes down to more of a boundary issue. The other day while me and my wife were visiting for thanksgiving dinner and we were changing my son's diaper, she made a few comments that implied that my wife was not a good mother (she said "you're gonna be a good mom one day") and that she doesn't take care of my son ("are…See More
Dec 13, 2013

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