James Francis Trotier
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Reconciling Faith in a Relationship

Started this discussion. Last reply by Matthew J Dorry Dec 20, 2012. 52 Replies

So I am 22 years old, about to graduate college, and I have run into a problem with my girlfriend. She is a passionate Christian and very strong in her faith. I, on the other hand, would classify…Continue

Tags: dating, relationships, religion, Faith

Study Abroad in Europe - What Can't I Miss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mitja Logar Aug 20, 2010. 12 Replies

Dear All,I am a junior in college about to embark on a 4 month semester abroad. I will be living in a small village in the southwestern area of Luxembourg. While I do have class 5 days a week, I plan…Continue

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J. R. Manard replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"It's a hard place to be, and no fun, but I would say it is best to let this one go. I was raised Catholic, and am an atheist now. I have dated women who were of various faiths, and ones who were atheists, and rarely did this issue come up. When…"
Dec 7, 2012
Sir Dylan replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"Boy this ones a doozie.without getting into the details, ill throw in my personal experience. my lady grew up christian, and i did not.  i am very open minded and spiritual, and seek to foster a relationship with whatever may be going on here,…"
Dec 3, 2012
Loki replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"Kudos to you man. For all you've done even so far. I'm an atheist, dated a number of religious women. Never had quite the ultimatum you have though (her stating she can NEVER be with a non-believer). While I've told these women who…"
Nov 30, 2012
StaggerLee replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"...but I feel as though I'm being held to an unfair standard.   I don't get how you come to this conclusion as  the standards are hers to define, not yours. Just from this one line, I'd be concerned for the long-term staying…"
Nov 26, 2012
Dan T. replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"I'm an atheist, a former Catholic myself. I nearly dated a semi-religious Catholic girl who really wouldn't have cared about my religion, but it would have ran into difficulties down the road.  My last girlfriend was a secular Jew,…"
Nov 25, 2012
João Bernardo de Sousa e Silva replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"Hi James, I've recently found a website that may help you rediscover your faith. take a look at http://www.catholicscomehome.org/former-catholic.php and see if it helps you. Cheers"
Nov 22, 2012
David F. replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"Okay she is with you as your girlfriend then she is not holding her own standards because she is currently "with you". If she really wants someone who has the same beliefs she should not have dated you. It is fairly simple.  You…"
Apr 9, 2012
Sir replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"I think belief is neither completely choice ("I can't believe impossible things," said Alice, though the White Queen differed) nor completely forced on us by reason and evidence ("I choose to believe that mankind is basically…"
Apr 7, 2012
Liam Strain replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"This. Exactly. "
Apr 7, 2012
The Original Cody replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"meh... I've dated religious gals and never really had a problem... maybe because they knew they would never marry me? As long as I treated their religion with respect I never got no guff. Parents were the bigger problem... So I say feel it…"
Apr 7, 2012
Michael1359 replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"I agree with Todd 100%. If she is serious about her Christianity (as she should be, IMO), then you are at an impasse. "
Apr 7, 2012
James Francis Trotier replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"You ask tough questions, but necessary ones, it seems. And thank you for giving me some perspective - it's not just about religion, but about how relatively important it is for each of us. Thanks for the brutal honesty - I really do appreciate…"
Apr 7, 2012
James Francis Trotier replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"I never really considered that, no. But, that may be the case - as someone else on this thread said, she may have just thought I was going through a crisis of my faith and that she could help me by dating me. However, that's not the sense I get…"
Apr 7, 2012
Carl Monster replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"Unfortunately, + 1 here."
Apr 7, 2012
Todd Serveto replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"James, part of the problem here may be on her part---she may have thought you were simply going through a faith crisis, and that after a time, it would resolve itself.  She probably told herself that she wouldn't let the relationship go…"
Apr 7, 2012
Nathan S replied to James Francis Trotier's discussion Reconciling Faith in a Relationship
"I think you may be missing what we're arguing. Of course people can change their ideas and beliefs, what I'm arguing is that this is not a conscious decision.  A thought experiment to illustrate the point. Someone puts a gun to your…"
Apr 7, 2012

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Ishmael, Oryx and Crake, Catch 22, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, The God Delusion, The Rhythm of Life.
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Fight Club, Tommy Boy, Top Gun, Saving Private Ryan, Good Will Hunting, We Were Soldiers, The Perfect Storm
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Tom Petty, The Who, Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Journey, Foreigner, The Clash, Kid CuDi, Eagles.
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"Everything is a choice. Love is a choice. Fear is a choice. Anger is a choice."

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At 3:40pm on August 9, 2010, Herb Munson said…
Hi there James. Welcome to AoM! Also, I'd like to give you a friendly invite to check out my group, The Great Debate. Just click on "Groups." It's the one with the colorful galaxy picture. It's also one of the most active groups on AoM. In any case, great to have you with us.
At 11:00pm on August 8, 2010, Brett McKay said…
Welcome to the Community, James! If you have any comments or questions, don't hesitate to let me know.
 
 
 

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