"What are your reasons to talk about marriage with her if you do not intend to do it now? I think your girl is right to wanting to get married right after the engagement... Think about it. Why engage if marriage is three, four years away? Just to…"
"I'm not sure exactly how the OP should broach the subject.
The OP shows a perception that the light of his life wants to run the show, he presents her rather specific specifications for where they will live, who will be paying for what, where…"
"You need to talk about what your plans are as a couple after marriage. It makes sense to me that she would like to secure your bonds. I did much the same with my wife when I was getting done with my undergrad.
But we also had a…"
"You are totally right, your marriage is supposed to be for the rest of your lifetime so you want to do it properly, you want to be cautious because this is not something you want to cut corners on and get a bad result.
Tell her you aren't ready…"
"Hey Jake, Congrats! Sounds like you guys have a plan even if you aren't entirely in line with one another. Thats a lot more than can be said for most especially at your ages. Few things I want to throw out there...
"Maybe print out your post and hand it to her!
OK, not literally, but you made your case very strongly. I totally get what you're about.
It sounds like a communication problem: she can't hear what you're saying.…"
Hey everybody, so I've been having a lot of thoughts about the relationship I've been in for almost 1 and a half years now and I'd like to ask for some advice. Just to let you know this might be a tad long because I'm gonna put some background info and context behind what I'm gonna say so just bear with me.I'm currently 23 years old and my girlfriend is 21, and she is about to start her senior year of college while I am taking a couple classes part-time this year after graduating with my…See More
"I got married younger (22) and have been that way longer (15+ years) - and I approve wholeheartedly this message.
And I'll add this - nothing else I would have done in my 20s would have made me a better human being, man, or even…"
"I read a tablet when it's cheaper to get the Kindle than a used book, but I prefer the physical book.
I was hopeful that I could get stuff from Japan by Kindle so I wouldn't have to pay intercontinental shipping! but every time I try to…"
"As my wife says "I'm married, but I'm not dead." I trust her implicitly and know that she would never take anything beyond flirtation. Would it bother me? Maybe, depends on the situation (and if I was being ignored). But…"
"I've done both and enjoy both. Tablets let you carry tons of books in lightweight form, and it's easy to read, adjust lighting, and change text size.
I enjoy physical books as well. They can be beautiful artifacts in and of…"
"I think the real question is here..why does it bother you? I love when my wife has the whole room just wanting her and they cannot have her and she's on me. Most people misconstrue my wife's actions or intentions because they do not know…"
"My wife does this...girls are so unstable even when they're our rock. What I mean is they NEED more reassurance. It's like they need to KNOW often just how you feel, even if you've already spelled it to the moon and back."