"What are your reasons to talk about marriage with her if you do not intend to do it now? I think your girl is right to wanting to get married right after the engagement... Think about it. Why engage if marriage is three, four years away? Just to…"
"It also doesn't bode well that neither is willing to listen to the other's thoughts on the subject. Marriage isn't about one side telling the other what to do, when to do it, how to do it, and who to do it with. There…"
"I'm not sure exactly how the OP should broach the subject.
The OP shows a perception that the light of his life wants to run the show, he presents her rather specific specifications for where they will live, who will be paying for what, where…"
"Sounds as though you both need to listen to what each other has to say about the subject. I'm sure she has her reasons for wanting to be married within the year and to you those reasons may seem to be emotional reasons rather than logical…"
"You need to talk about what your plans are as a couple after marriage. It makes sense to me that she would like to secure your bonds. I did much the same with my wife when I was getting done with my undergrad.
But we also had a…"
"I don't remotely understand super long engagements. When you ask her to marry you, be ready to marry.
Finances, school, jobs, there is always going to be something going on, something that could be better, something that could be more ideal."
"You are totally right, your marriage is supposed to be for the rest of your lifetime so you want to do it properly, you want to be cautious because this is not something you want to cut corners on and get a bad result.
Tell her you aren't ready…"
"Hey Jake, Congrats! Sounds like you guys have a plan even if you aren't entirely in line with one another. Thats a lot more than can be said for most especially at your ages. Few things I want to throw out there...
"Maybe print out your post and hand it to her!
OK, not literally, but you made your case very strongly. I totally get what you're about.
It sounds like a communication problem: she can't hear what you're saying.…"
Hey everybody, so I've been having a lot of thoughts about the relationship I've been in for almost 1 and a half years now and I'd like to ask for some advice. Just to let you know this might be a tad long because I'm gonna put some background info and context behind what I'm gonna say so just bear with me.I'm currently 23 years old and my girlfriend is 21, and she is about to start her senior year of college while I am taking a couple classes part-time this year after graduating with my…See More
"I got married younger (22) and have been that way longer (15+ years) - and I approve wholeheartedly this message.
And I'll add this - nothing else I would have done in my 20s would have made me a better human being, man, or even…"
Christmas is coming. The Geese are getting fat.I have been out of Christmas shopping for a couple of years. I was out to dinner with my two buddies and I was trying to get a handle on what they are eying for electronics this year. They are both into video games and each has there own custom built computer.I was originally going to see if I can get a headphone amplifier from Mayflower electronics but the price was just way up there. But I like the idea of a head phone amplifier. What are some…See More
"A guitar is a very personal extension of the person playing it. You have to be emotionally and spiritually connected to your instrument."-Eddie van HalenThis is a public group for discussions on who you believe is the best lead guitarist. Any kind of guitar is permitted for discussion (Electric, acoustic, resonator, baritone, etc...), just not bass. See More
"I third that motion. I've been in the same situation. The romanticism of the past and the heartache is amplified due to the fact you haven't seen anyone else since.
time x lonliness squared = nostalgia
time x new relationship(s) squared =…"
This year we went into the mountains and cut down our own Christmas tree. This has been a fun tradition, everything from getting up @3:00am to go get the permit to getting stuck in the snow and have to rely on shovels, sweat, ingenuity, and kind strangers to get unstuck. What are some of the other Christmas traditions y'all enjoy?