Hello everyone!I've been a passionate Art of Manliness reader for a while now. I hesitated quite a bit on whether I should even write this, but here I go.I seem to be having trouble connecting with…Continue
"Wayne, did your read the NYT article on male friendships (or lack of) in middle age?
I bring up the severe limitations we face in forming friendships, in addition to the inward stuff you mention. A big one for me, and mentioned in the article is…"
"I have a lot of really close male friends and I feel quite fortunate about that. I had a really hard time picking only 5 guys for my groomsmen because I have so many guys in my life that are like brothers. It wasn't always this way and when I…"
"I want to thank everyone that has replied to this post with helpful information, and I want to thank Jack for posting this. I find myself in situation similar to Jack's and have read some good tips here."
"I won't dispute it; I really want to know: why would we be programmed NOT to bond with other men? It's part of our design to be sociable, right? Who programmed us? Maybe there's a way to deprogram. I hope…"
"How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Become an Expert on Anything in Two Hours
Memorize this line:
Hey buddy, can you give me a spot?
I've been living like a hermit for the past year with work and studies.…"
"Jack, yeah, make friendships are tough. We're programmed not to bond with other guys. But I have some really good guy friends with whom I can talk about anything. I think you might be approaching it the wrong way. If you are sitting with a guy…"
"On the expressed goals and issues: Take a speech class at Uni. Possibly also a drama class. If the issue is really the literal sound of your voice, this will help. I've just been reading about how we each have a precise key (like on a piano)…"
"Must second that.
Very similar childhood to yours. My solution was to have only good female friends, which did get me a wonderful wife but leaves me with no male buddy at my age I can call a good friend. And the cards are way stacked against me…"
"I can't answer as an expert, but I'd start off by reading a range of news and political magazines. I'd also start following your local pro sports teams...you don't have to make yourself a fan, just be knowledgable enough to…"
"Drop by the AoM group New Warriors for a way to connect at a deep level.
I also am in a fraternal organization. I must admit I have never really connected, but I do enjoy playing poker.
You can also address the internal voice that tells you…"
""Any recommendations on what to buy to get started and what tobacco seemed to be the best top you and why."
As a pipe smoker for over 45 years, my advice to you is to go to your local tobacconist and seek his help. They usually have…"
I have a pair of Vasque backpacking boots that have been very good to me for the last 12 years. However, I have not been so good to them. Lately I decided to restore them, so I cleaned them up using some hot water and a brush, let them dry, and then added some leather conditioner to them to help soften the leather and bring back some of the original luster. The problem I am finding is that there are large portions of the leather that are black instead of the original brown. I put a small…See More