"Wayne, did your read the NYT article on male friendships (or lack of) in middle age?
I bring up the severe limitations we face in forming friendships, in addition to the inward stuff you mention. A big one for me, and mentioned in the article is…"
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Trouble Connecting With Men
Started this discussion. Last reply by Carl Monster Sep 24, 2012. 27 Replies 0 Likes
Hello everyone!I've been a passionate Art of Manliness reader for a while now. I hesitated quite a bit on whether I should even write this, but here I go.I seem to be having trouble connecting with…Continue
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Andrew Z replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"I have a lot of really close male friends and I feel quite fortunate about that. I had a really hard time picking only 5 guys for my groomsmen because I have so many guys in my life that are like brothers. It wasn't always this way and when I…"
Ayden Dijkstra replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"I want to thank everyone that has replied to this post with helpful information, and I want to thank Jack for posting this. I find myself in situation similar to Jack's and have read some good tips here."
Will replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"I won't dispute it; I really want to know: why would we be programmed NOT to bond with other men? It's part of our design to be sociable, right? Who programmed us? Maybe there's a way to deprogram. I hope…"
Shane replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Become an Expert on Anything in Two Hours
Toastmasters
Memorize this line:
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Also:
I've been living like a hermit for the past year with work and studies.…"
SteveSF replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"Jack, yeah, make friendships are tough. We're programmed not to bond with other guys. But I have some really good guy friends with whom I can talk about anything. I think you might be approaching it the wrong way. If you are sitting with a guy…"
Rebekah replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"On the expressed goals and issues: Take a speech class at Uni. Possibly also a drama class. If the issue is really the literal sound of your voice, this will help. I've just been reading about how we each have a precise key (like on a piano)…"
Carl Monster replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"Must second that.
Very similar childhood to yours. My solution was to have only good female friends, which did get me a wonderful wife but leaves me with no male buddy at my age I can call a good friend. And the cards are way stacked against me…"
Native Son replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"I can't answer as an expert, but I'd start off by reading a range of news and political magazines. I'd also start following your local pro sports teams...you don't have to make yourself a fan, just be knowledgable enough to…"
Jack replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"Really nicely said.
I don't expect magic or whatever from such a 'friendship', just being able to have a conversation at another level (non-professional) would be great..."
Will replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"Drop by the AoM group New Warriors for a way to connect at a deep level.
I also am in a fraternal organization. I must admit I have never really connected, but I do enjoy playing poker.
You can also address the internal voice that tells you…"
Jack replied to Jack's discussion Trouble Connecting With Men"No... there is a nearby pool but in the winter it gets way too expensive because of heating costs they have. So, it's not a viable option. Once-twice a month..."
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