This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue
"Good boundaries are reinforced by a positive self-image and well-defined values. In a relationship...there is a greta deal of wheeling and dealing...and even some compromise-making on some gray issues, but for the areas that you know are flagrant…"
"JD you are the only one that can truely answer the question of "boundaries" in this relationship. You know what you see as right or wrong better than anyone else!
In my experience it is always best to be honest both with yourself and your…"
"You said "enforcing boundaries in a relationship", which led me (and I imagine nearly all your readers) to conclude that you were talking about a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, hence the inference about marriage. In fact, in the…"
"A one way ticket to Mars is, in most probability, a suicide mission. At least for the first wave. I can see even generating oxygen in greater volumes than you consume before your supplies run out, being a huge problem.
But if I were terminally ill,…"
"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations.
I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you. So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything. She…"
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
"I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never…"
"It is possible that she is not doing anything wrong, even if she is acting dishonorably in doing so.
You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
"An alternative option is to put all your regular adult sites into your hosts file. This redirects the URL to a specified IP address, such as null, which makes the site inaccessible.
It's not that difficult to do, but its just enough hassle to…"
"I know, as tempting as it is it would only create trouble. My wife and I joke about that with her ex because of the stupid games he plays with our kids (he's the bio-dad) especially our daughter. Like when my daughter graduated high…"
Gents, I'm on Day 3 of the 30 day Be a Better Man quest. Just a quick update:Day 1: Core Values.This was a tough one for me. In the AF, we have a set of core values drilled into us. It took some real soul searching and understanding that it was okay to be different. 1. Be genuine. I haven't always walked around without a mask, but I've always tried to be genuine to who I am. Integrity, Actions, Sincerity all go hand in h...and with that.2. Empathy. Use it and keep an open mind. 3. Self…See More
"Lawyer, separation (why on earth is she still around him this much?), restraining order if needed. If he violates that restraining order, she should immediately call the cops, and be prepared to shoot him if he threatens violence."
"Mostly what I've noticed is the people who own those "Pavement Princesses" don't wave.
The other day I saw a Rubicon go by with the Rubicon lettering modified to LSUBICON, and another that is owned by a woman has…"
"Support your sister by supporting your sister ... not by beating the asshole senseless. Might be momentarily satisfying, but unless its self-defense, you'll make things worse. You'll land in jail. You'll get the…"