This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue
"Good boundaries are reinforced by a positive self-image and well-defined values. In a relationship...there is a greta deal of wheeling and dealing...and even some compromise-making on some gray issues, but for the areas that you know are flagrant…"
"JD you are the only one that can truely answer the question of "boundaries" in this relationship. You know what you see as right or wrong better than anyone else!
In my experience it is always best to be honest both with yourself and your…"
"You said "enforcing boundaries in a relationship", which led me (and I imagine nearly all your readers) to conclude that you were talking about a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, hence the inference about marriage. In fact, in the…"
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"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations.
I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you. So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything. She…"
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
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You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
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