This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue
"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations.
I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you. So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything. She…"
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
"I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never…"
"It is possible that she is not doing anything wrong, even if she is acting dishonorably in doing so.
You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
"An alternative option is to put all your regular adult sites into your hosts file. This redirects the URL to a specified IP address, such as null, which makes the site inaccessible.
It's not that difficult to do, but its just enough hassle to…"
"And illegal border crossings are down 73%.
Most retail shrinkage occurs due to employee theft. Therefore, we should not stop shoplifters.
It doesn't matter how small that number gets, it's not an effective argument.
"Ah - my mistake.
We do have other trends at play though. Over 66% of all illegal immigrants have been in the US for more than a decade. Only 7% of Mexican unauthorized immigrants have been here for less that 5 years, which suggests that the…"
"Regarding all of those jobs, a miner or a deep sea fisherman or on an oil rig, I say why not? Of course it's possible. Sounds like a good time. No reason you can't see the world and discover all kinds of work while you're young and…"
"Thanks for the reply. Blazers, I'm not sure about - I think they've never been a thing here, though I have seen them become slightly more popular in the recent years. About brogues - are they good for long distance\ everyday wear? Because…"
"If they're punching you, you have every right to defend yourself. Push back, fight back, get loud and angry. Most bullies will find someone easier to pick on if you're too much hassle.
If they're saying hurtful things you just need to…"
"And two thirds of the day there's no one in my house. Still not gonna take the lock off my door. You seem to be operating under the assumption that unless we seal off 100% of the border, then it's a total failure and we should take no…"