This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue
"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations.
I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you. So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything. She…"
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
"I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never…"
"It is possible that she is not doing anything wrong, even if she is acting dishonorably in doing so.
You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
"An alternative option is to put all your regular adult sites into your hosts file. This redirects the URL to a specified IP address, such as null, which makes the site inaccessible.
It's not that difficult to do, but its just enough hassle to…"
"Oh, and based on what you disclosed, you certainly have not made a grand mistake: the fact that she is still into you means she did not feel it was a deal-breaker. It means she still finds that you have significant worth to her.
I do advise you to…"
"Thanks for your thoughtful response. The analogy with the volume knob definitely makes sense, I certainly love her on one level, as I think she is amazing and feel very strong emotions when thinking about her. I just haven't know her very long…"
"I suspect communication will make both of you feel better.
What happened is very natural and does not mean a bad thing has happened.
She said something that you were not prepared for. Silence was your brain pausing so it could process…"
"I think it's ok to apologize, tell her that she caught you a bit off-guard and in that moment you were not sure how to respond. That you really like her, are happy to know how she feels, and to give you a little time to let your feelings catch…"
Hi there,I've been seeing a girl for about two months and last Friday we were out at two of her friends' engagement party, everyone was drinking a lot of alcohol and after we left the bar we were walking along and she told me that she loved me. I was pretty drunk and didn't know how to respond. Unfortunately, her response was met by silence, which I feel pretty bad about. She put her heart on the line and I didn't respond.I suppose I felt that two months was too soon to really be feeling things…See More
"I'm an investment manager and manage private client portfolios. We don't earn anywhere near as much as people managing funds, but I enjoy it most of the time. There's always stressful periods, like when the markets are tanking, but I…"
"I was away quite a lot for my work while my sons were small and always felt guilty about it. My sons are grown now and fathers themselves and recently I said it to them when we were on one of our walks with their children, they all agreed that when…"