This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue
"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations.
I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you. So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything. She…"
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
"I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never…"
"It is possible that she is not doing anything wrong, even if she is acting dishonorably in doing so.
You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
"An alternative option is to put all your regular adult sites into your hosts file. This redirects the URL to a specified IP address, such as null, which makes the site inaccessible.
It's not that difficult to do, but its just enough hassle to…"
"The practical outcome if I adopt this perspective is that women will show their rears? I ordinarily don't like paraphrases of others' posts -- seems too much like straw man -- but you've given me nothing more to work with!"
"Ahh....the army didn't want my crooked back, dinged knees, or flat feet either. A buddy of mine (fit and smart as a whip) didn't get in to flight school because his parents were divorced (yup, that was the only reason).
If you truly…"
"I like a minimalist approach as well: apart from the computer (and necessary cords/ports/etc to plug accessories in) I go for a couple of pens, some paper to scribble on, a filing tray to hold current work, and perhaps one personal item to cheer me…"
"I normally keep a pocket watch on me. I like them because they require a certain amount of upkeep to maintain and, being a naturally forgetful person, it helped me to discipline that part of me. Also, No Batteries.
However, if they break you either…"