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Enforcing boundaries

Started this discussion. Last reply by Joseph CB Jan 28, 2013. 9 Replies

This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples,…Continue

 

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Joseph CB replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"Good boundaries are reinforced by a positive self-image and well-defined values. In a relationship...there is a greta deal of wheeling and dealing...and even some compromise-making on some gray issues, but for the areas that you know are flagrant…"
Jan 28, 2013
Benjamin Rogers replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"JD you are the only one that can truely answer the question of "boundaries" in this relationship. You know what you see as right or wrong better than anyone else! In my experience it is always best to be honest both with yourself and your…"
Jan 28, 2013
Michael B. replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"Rather than ruminate on my own, I suggest an article here and the associated publication it invokes;   http://artofmanliness.com/2009/06/17/30-days-to-a-better-man-day-18-find-your-n-u-t-s/"
Jan 25, 2013
Todd Serveto replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"You said "enforcing boundaries in a relationship", which led me (and I imagine nearly all your readers) to conclude that you were talking about a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, hence the inference about marriage.  In fact, in the…"
Jan 22, 2013
JD Good replied to Karl Helweg's discussion Would you pioneer Mars?
"A one way ticket to Mars is, in most probability, a suicide mission. At least for the first wave. I can see even generating oxygen in greater volumes than you consume before your supplies run out, being a huge problem. But if I were terminally ill,…"
Jan 22, 2013
JD Good replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"Interesting responses. I left this a little open-ended, as it tends to generate more creative responses depending on personal interpretations. I am curious where the marriage perception came from, my use of the word "relationship"? For…"
Jan 22, 2013
Michael D. Denny replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"Anyone wanna guess how I am going to answer this one ??  Wait for it... Three words for ya, big guy. Over ... the ... knee"
Jan 21, 2013
Penelope replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"Different people have different relationships with and attitudes towards exes. And exes are different. Most of mine are deeply broken people that don't pose a romantic "threat" to my husband. He and I both acknowledge that bigger…"
Jan 21, 2013
Todd Serveto replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"JD; there is only one person you can change, and that is you.  So when you say "enforce boundaries", all you can really do is determine what YOU are going to do--you can't "make" your girlfriend do anything.  She…"
Jan 21, 2013
Jack Bauer replied to JD Good's discussion Enforcing boundaries
"As a general rule, committed couples -- and particularly married couples -- ought not spend unnecessary alone-time with the opposite sex.  Nothing wrong with friendship, or group time, or double dates, or parties, or whatever ... but, going…"
Jan 21, 2013
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Enforcing boundaries

This is something I've been wondering recently. How to set limits and boundaries, and how to enforce them in a relationship.I don't quite know how to define this, and I can only resort to examples, which is why I'm posting it here.For example There is already a thread here 'Girlfriend having dinner with her ex' as an example of boundaries being crossed. Taking that, without and back history posts.Is she doing something possibly wrong? Not necessarily. But is she being dishonest and…See More
Jan 21, 2013
JD Good replied to Mark Last Name's discussion Porn addicted, please help!
"I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never…"
Jan 21, 2013
JD Good replied to Ian M's discussion Found that girlfriend's ex takes her out for dinner
"It is possible that she is not doing anything wrong, even if she is acting dishonorably in doing so. You definitely need to confront her about this. Calmly. She has stepped out of line, and has to acknowledge that and do something to rectify it. Yu…"
Jan 21, 2013
JD Good replied to Mark Last Name's discussion Porn addicted, please help!
"An alternative option is to put all your regular adult sites into your hosts file. This redirects the URL to a specified IP address, such as null, which makes the site inaccessible. It's not that difficult to do, but its just enough hassle to…"
Jan 21, 2013
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