Dear reader,Main reason I read articles on The Art of Manliness is because I love traditions and love to receive some guidance. I've been dating a wonderful woman for the past year and at some point…Continue
"We don't read and write poetry because it's cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and…"
"This information helps.
In Western civilization, where women are free to choose their husbands, the proposal comes before asking for the blessing from Dad. Sure would be a problem if he agreed and she didn't! I know…"
"I'd like to weigh in on this discussion and ask if you and her have gone to marriage counseling?
If so, seek out someone around the area that is Muslim or at least knows the Koran to see how they think/act/believe/etc... If not, see if you can…"
"Thanks for you response.I've added a list of extra details according to your questions.- Never met him before- Good father, but not always the easiest- Would love to meet him before I propose. Want to know where she comes from. - She…"
"Yes, because he let his daughter go all the way to another country where she has obviously spent quite a bit of time because he has some kind of possessive control issues with her and doesn't value her ability to make decisions that affect her…"
"That's a lot of speculation about what a wonderful, loving dad OP's girlfriend has...based on what, exactly?
Not all fathers love their daughters, or want what's best from them, and often the way in which they might think they do is…"
"There are a few factors that you haven't told us that could profoundly influence the matter. First of all, how old is she, and how emancipated/independent is she, already? Second, how old are you? Are you established in a…"
"Meh. Just be respectful to the man (the man may some day be your father, and he deserves your respect. Remember, that's his little girl you are dating), then show him you care for his daughter and will work hard to make her…"
"Have you met him before? What sort of role does he have in her life? What's their relationship like? Will you meet him before you would propose?
I think that if he has a good relationship with her, or if it is important to…"
Dear reader,Main reason I read articles on The Art of Manliness is because I love traditions and love to receive some guidance. I've been dating a wonderful woman for the past year and at some point I'd like to marry her. She feels the same way which is terrific. That being said her father lives in Morocco and believes in the Quran, which is unfortunate since I'm agnostic and so is she. I'd like to ask him her hand in marriage because I believe it's the right thing to do, but I realize that I…See More
"We decide as a society which things are acceptable behavior. A consenting relationship between adults, is no business of mine or yours. And no reason to discriminate.
We draw lines legally surrounding issues of consent (and sometimes harm). A…"
"You are comparing laws and customs that yoked the lives of fellow human beings in involuntary solitude and chattel slavery, broke families, and put millions of people through hardships that you could never fucking fathom,
to the laws that say, hey,…"
"I'm torn on the issue. On the one hand, I consider sexuality in the same category as I do age, race, and sex - that is, things you are born with. Discriminating against someone because they are black, or a woman, or over 50, is pretty shitty.…"
"Opening up the door for legally obligated cake baking despite the baker's objections and convictions is similar to fundamentalist christian's efforts to "get god back in schools" or "teach the controversy", in that it…"
""So the problem with the self seems to be that it's whatever anyone says whenever anyone says, & it can changed endlessly."
I think God changes at near the same rate as the self, which, I suspect, is less swift and less endless…"