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Eating Disorder?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Penelope Jun 5, 2014. 23 Replies

Gents, I need some advice on a bit of a sombre topic: eating disorders. I don't have one, no. But my girlfriend does, or at least a borderline one. She makes herself vomit if she feels like she ate…Continue

Feeling Unaccomplished

Started this discussion. Last reply by Christopher Sun Apr 9, 2014. 41 Replies

Gents, Just looking for some advice on the situation I find myself in. I recently (less than a year) began dating a wonderful woman. She has everything I need and I see this relationship working for…Continue

How best to approach a tough conversation

Started this discussion. Last reply by Walter B. Pewen Feb 22, 2014. 44 Replies

Hi all,Right now I'm faced with a tough conversation that needs to be had with a friend of mine. In a nutshell he's been getting too close with my girlfriend and I have to tell him to back off. He's…Continue

Unintentional Sabotage

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rick Shelton Jan 23, 2014. 15 Replies

Gents,It occurs to me that I tend to be the one to unintentionally sabotage my relationships with women and I'm reaching out here to try to overcome that or see what can be done about that. I found a…Continue


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D.J. replied to Native Son's discussion The Archbishop of San Francisco Strikes Again! in the group Catholic Men
"There's nothing wrong about what the priests did. You're making the slippery slope argument by extrapolating this move and applying it to other female roles in the Mass/Church life.  This might be of interest to…"
Jan 29, 2015
D.J. replied to Bearwolf's discussion Why Do They Bother Going To Mass? in the group Catholic Men
"I see what you did there. My point was that the priest could be a space cadet and not even know what's going on; thus, I suggested that he be made aware of it. I'm not on the ground there and you aren't either, Vytautas. Both of our…"
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D.J. replied to Bearwolf's discussion Why Do They Bother Going To Mass? in the group Catholic Men
"I wouldn't say it's rampant since VII. Some of the disrespect can be traced to poor interpretations of VII, communion in the hand, poor catechesis, bad Masses, etc. Other than that, I think it varies parish to parish and it often starts…"
Jan 19, 2015
Penelope replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"You have a brave daughter.  Thanks for sharing."
Jun 5, 2014
Clinton R. Ausmus replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"I agree with you 100 percent.  But it sounds like the OP is ready to put an ultimatum on the table (go see someone about this or we are finished type of deal).  And I agree it isn't normal for someone to force themselves to throw up…"
Jun 5, 2014
Penelope replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"It's precisely because we're not qualified to make a diagnosis that we recommend she see someone who is.  It is not only those who are sick who need a physician, but those who might be.  While occasional binge eating is normal,…"
Jun 5, 2014
Clinton R. Ausmus replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Personally, I'm on your girlfriends side.  This is concerning, but you don't give enough information for anyone to diagnose a disorder, not that I am qualified to say one way or another.  It just doesn't seem like she forces…"
Jun 5, 2014
Stein replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"You need to encourage her to get into counseling now. with someone who treats women with an eating disorder.From there her counselor can guide her to the right treatment  it can be life threatening. I have met women who have ruptured their…"
Jun 5, 2014
D.J. replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"I can only hope. One can lead a horse to water but can't force it to drink.  Nice beard, btw. It looks good on you. "
Jun 4, 2014
Chuck Knight replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Ultimately, the decision to seek help must come from within her. It's not something you can do for her, no matter how much you want to take care of the situation. The most you can hope to do is to be loving and supportive. And, let the chips…"
Jun 4, 2014
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Yeah, good point."
Jun 4, 2014
D.J. replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Anyone can be rational most of the time but eating disorders by their nature are irrational. I may indeed end up showing her the health effects of bulimia but I wouldn't hedge my bets on that having much of an effect. "
Jun 4, 2014
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Tell her she's beautiful the way she is. I know it's garish, cheesy, and cliché, but maybe she needs to hear it. If she's the rational type, show her the health effects of bulimia."
Jun 4, 2014
D.J. replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"Great idea and advice. Thank you. "
Jun 4, 2014
Penelope replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"I meant "make her tick" generally.  Does she want to please?  Is she a control-freak?  Does she like the spontaneous?  Most eating disorders are at least partially about control, so she's probably like me and…"
Jun 4, 2014
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Eating Disorder?
"You seem to be doing all you can do. Just remember to be loving."
Jun 4, 2014

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A Speech

Posted on March 28, 2012 at 4:12pm 0 Comments

I have been pressed, in the interest of context, to provide the text of a speech I delivered in the recent past. Below the is the transcript of said speech. Judge how you will.

President [redacted], Speaker [redacted], Justice [redacted], and my fellow Senators:

            I am up here today to speak to you about the formation of a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, and questioning group at the University of Notre Dame. I want to say, first of all and for…


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At 11:28pm on July 14, 2013, 03u3osihyqbu703u3osihyqbu7 said…

Thanks for the friend request. I'm glad to have you on my friend's list.


At 2:28pm on June 19, 2013, Stevens33 said…

Hey D.J., I just read your post about your recent break up and I was very sorry to hear about it. You gave me some very helpful advice back in March about two girls I was stuck between. Needless to say, I am happily dating one of them now, and feel as though I made a very good choice, due in part to your help. I just wanted to pay it forward and offer myself as a resource should you need any help or opinions on dating or personal development in the future.

At 2:03am on November 2, 2012, Larry said…

I read your speech, in its entirety! You're a fine young man!

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I like your profile picture of Gen. Patton!


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