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Feeling Unaccomplished

Started this discussion. Last reply by Christopher Sun Apr 9. 41 Replies

Gents, Just looking for some advice on the situation I find myself in. I recently (less than a year) began dating a wonderful woman. She has everything I need and I see this relationship working for…Continue

How best to approach a tough conversation

Started this discussion. Last reply by Walter B. Pewen Feb 22. 46 Replies

Hi all,Right now I'm faced with a tough conversation that needs to be had with a friend of mine. In a nutshell he's been getting too close with my girlfriend and I have to tell him to back off. He's…Continue

Unintentional Sabotage

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rick Shelton Jan 23. 19 Replies

Gents,It occurs to me that I tend to be the one to unintentionally sabotage my relationships with women and I'm reaching out here to try to overcome that or see what can be done about that. I found a…Continue

Keeping it Going: Making the Honeymoon Period Last

Started this discussion. Last reply by Shane Dec 30, 2013. 6 Replies

Hey Gents,I was just wondering if anyone could share some tips on making the "honeymoon period" last. Brett and Kate wrote an article on the main page about this (found…Continue

 

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Christopher Sun replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Im surrounded by "winners" (7 or 8 figured in the bank account before 40).  The more time i spend with them, the more i realize that they sit around feeling the same way you do all the time. You have to strive to improve yourself (or…"
Apr 9
Tim Dienes replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Being a short man, I know I have been on the short end of the stick in interviews. "
Apr 3
Paul_of_TX replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Not sexism just simply pointing out that she has an edge over some of the competition. Being taller also gives you slight edge."
Apr 3
Jack Bauer replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"For married couples, its best to just quit measuring separately.  For example, you don't make $50K and she $75K -- y'all make $125K.  You don't make $80K and she stays home -- y'all make $80K and…"
Apr 3
StaggerLee replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Accomplishment is in the eye of the accomplisher. You are you. You are not her.  I assume you have set goals, priorities and the like. If not, there is the root of your insecurity in lack of accomplishment and you need look no further. If so,…"
Apr 3
Regular Joe replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Yeah seriously."
Apr 3
Regular Joe replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
""Her successes are not at your expense.  Quite the opposite.  And, your failures aren't yours alone.  Your relationship may be too uncommitted and short-term at the moment to fully unite ... but, getting in that…"
Apr 3
Regular Joe replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"I agree with these statements, too. Don't do stuff because you think it measures up against her stuff; do stuff because you genuinely want to / like to. "
Apr 3
Regular Joe replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"That's a good point. If you were able to attract and retain a person of that kind of value then that says volumes about your own value. Some people will recognize that while others won't. The question you have to ask yourself is why you…"
Apr 3
Regular Joe replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
""Has anyone else felt this way?" My wife won a Governor General's award for highest grades in the country in high school, then fast-tracked through a BA while working at the supreme court, then blew through law school finishing top…"
Apr 3
Vytautas replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"That's some awesome sexism there, Paul."
Apr 2
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Patton lacked in the luck department"
Apr 2
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Your advice requires an unnatural amount of luck and balls. Can you blame him?"
Apr 2
Pale Horse replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"I often feel the same way. I get paranoid sometimes that my friends just hang around me to well-meaningly patronize me. But if she's dating you, so she must like you."
Apr 2
Rick Shelton replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"Getting jobs. You also need to do practice interviews if at all possible.  If you've been on many first interviews and have not been offered second interviews then your career counselor's office can help with the interview process."
Apr 2
Will replied to D.J.'s discussion Feeling Unaccomplished
"I think so.  Without Christ, your righteousness is as filthy rags.  With him, you can overcome all things.  Bible doesn't use the term "self-esteem," but it seems clear to me that God isn't impressed with your…"
Apr 2

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All things manly and American.
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The Great Gatsby
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Most of the Top 100 listed by the American Film Institute.
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Classics (Sinatra) to more modern stuff (indie really).
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I'm not there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday.

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A Speech

Posted on March 28, 2012 at 4:12pm 0 Comments

I have been pressed, in the interest of context, to provide the text of a speech I delivered in the recent past. Below the is the transcript of said speech. Judge how you will.

President [redacted], Speaker [redacted], Justice [redacted], and my fellow Senators:

            I am up here today to speak to you about the formation of a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, and questioning group at the University of Notre Dame. I want to say, first of all and for…

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At 11:28pm on July 14, 2013, C.C. Dolph said…

Thanks for the friend request. I'm glad to have you on my friend's list.

 

At 2:28pm on June 19, 2013, Stevens33 said…

Hey D.J., I just read your post about your recent break up and I was very sorry to hear about it. You gave me some very helpful advice back in March about two girls I was stuck between. Needless to say, I am happily dating one of them now, and feel as though I made a very good choice, due in part to your help. I just wanted to pay it forward and offer myself as a resource should you need any help or opinions on dating or personal development in the future.

At 2:03am on November 2, 2012, Larry said…

I read your speech, in its entirety! You're a fine young man!

At 3:00pm on December 7, 2011, Michael Morris said…

I like your profile picture of Gen. Patton!

 
 
 

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