"Suits are not pretentious. As long as you avoid flashy jewellery (watch, bracelet, tie bars) you should be fine. There are a several ways to scale down the formality if you want, such as brown shoes, knit tie, darker shirt.
In the scenario you…"
"I see a lot of good advice here already. There are basically two sides to approach this problem: (1) get better places to carry your stuff and (2) reduce the amount of stuff you carry. The best of bad solutions will combine both approaches.
"I have been using Ogallala Bay Rum shaving soap lately. It makes a lot of lather very easily, smells great, and doesn’t seem to dry out my skin as much as Williams.
I see you are in the United States, so I can’t comment on…"
"If you have worn those boots with mess dress, that's a perfect reason to buck tradition slightly and wear them with civilian black tie. After all, military mess dress and civilian black tie have been borrowing details from each other since the…"
"Yes, to all three bullet points. :)
But to go into a bit more detail:
A white pocket square is classic, but dark colours work well too.
Black shoes are appropriate. Boots are distinctly non-traditional with evening formal.
Cologne: use a…"
"Business casual sounds about right to me. Dark pants and black shoes, since it's in the evening. Shine your shoes. Sport coat, no tie. Maybe drop the sport coat if you feel it's too dressy, or add a tie if it's not dressy enough.
"How about some more info? Attire for a fundraiser at a rural Saskatchewan wagon wheel museum would be different from one at the Guggenheim in New York City. Also time of day and activities at the event would make a difference."
"If I’m at a barbecue with a shirtless cook, I would lose my appetite. The thought of another man’s chest hair, armpit hair - or the sweat thereof - falling on my food turns my stomach.
And aren’t your family and friends the most…"
"Always go with the grain first.
I find I cut myself only when I accidentally move the razor perpendicular to handle: make sure you move it only parallel to the handle.
One thing that may help with this is holding the razor by the very end of the…"
"The Vincero grey is light enough that dark brown shoes and belt would go well with it, I think, but for a special occasion in the evening, I would go with black shoes.
Another suggestion: since you are wearing a vest, consider suspenders instead of…"
"I don’t mean to sound snarky, but have you considered the possibility that you seem to have more facial hair than your peers only because they have already been shaving for a few years? Don’t most men start shaving younger than 16?"
"Without knowing more about the event (place, attire specified on the invitation, age and lifestyle of the other guests) I can't say for certain that it would be inappropriate, but my first impulse is to say don't wear that unless you are…"
"Definitely knee-high kilt hose with garters and garter flashes. Shorter socks look terrible with kilts. The only way short socks would be excusable is if you are participating in strong-man competition or something like that. For an event with any…"
Hi there Dean. Welcome to AoM. Also, I'd like to give you a friendly invite to check out my group, The Great Debate. Just click on "Groups." It's the one with the colorful galaxy picture. It's also one of the most active groups on AoM. In any case, great to have you with us.
"Ok first of all thanks for the replies, I appreciate it. I just called her about 20 minutes ago and after greeting her & asking how she's doing, I literally asked if she has any plans this week & she said she did (going to this other…"