I am not sure if this has been discussed in this forum. It is a rather difficult topic for me to bring up because in my pursuit to become a better man, I feel I need to somehow deal with this in a…Continue
"I wonder if you didn't have an idea that she was 'experienced' prior to your marriage. Is it the exact number of partners that bothers you the most? 10, 20 or 25, how were things between you before you heard the magic…"
"Alright there David,
If you led a similar path before to your wife then I doubt it would be an issue for that you couldn't come to terms with.
I made a pact with myself what to me is acceptable in a fiancee' history…"
"David---this topic comes up now and again, and I'm going to tell you what I honestly believe, even though it might not be popular in our current cultural climate. Sex is like fire--contained within its proper boundaries, it's…"
"Yeah, so far as I know, Mexicans are rather Catholic and lean conservative, but I've seen the occasional Mexican hipster girl. If anything redeems the forlorn species of hipsters, that kind of girl will. But I digress. Your kids are going to be…"
"Shane, I opposed conservative to promiscuous, which is clever, if obvious. -- Everyone is a liberal in the picture. But when sex and drama start, liberalism disappears: it is useless. Shame is the word you are looking for when you talk of chastity…"
"I hope it's a good prize.
My girlfriend's family is Mexican, so no surprises there as far as religious affiliation goes. No moralizing other than some occasional mumbo-jumbo about how lonely and sad a world without God…"
"Conservatism is not used here in the political sense, but rather the vanilla flavored ice cream sense, do we need mint chocolate chip to live a flavor filled life? Nope. But, I like it.
That Alyssa does not try to persuade…"
"I agree, the man turned coward. But I do not agree that his conservatism was a problem, because I do not agree that her promiscuity was a good thing.
Had she been a happy woman, then Holden might have felt like her love or company or example would…"
"I agree, there is no character arch. But then, such is life. Which makes for poor story, but powerful example. We either learn, or not, from our experiences. Yet it is our experiences which make us who we are. Even if…"
"I guess as far as household repairs goes, it depends on what your hardship tolerance is and if you have kids.
We just toughed it out without a water heater for a month while I very, very, very slowly figured out which tankless hot water heater…"
"Thanks all, much appreciated.
It's good to hear that these are very possibly lingering issues from what indeed was a tough time.
You're very right I think. I am guilty of 'clinging on' to the honeymoon period and…"
"Actually, the major (expensive) fix-its that have happened at the house have been the "gotta get it fixed NOW" sort of things. Like when the bottom rusted out on the ancient water heater. That's really when having $500 or…"
"I think y'all are just moving down the intimacy timeline and expecting it to look like the first few months, and reacting to it when it doesn't, then taking the rub too seriously.
If one of you is in a bad mood, just spend time apart or…"
"Of course not, that is how a believer is to live, friend.
It took me 20 years of prayer; I have the wife the Lord provided me, and now I understand why it seemingly took so long... Our Lord is not in a hurry, he provides the best for us, if we…"