I am not sure if this has been discussed in this forum. It is a rather difficult topic for me to bring up because in my pursuit to become a better man, I feel I need to somehow deal with this in a…Continue
"I wonder if you didn't have an idea that she was 'experienced' prior to your marriage. Is it the exact number of partners that bothers you the most? 10, 20 or 25, how were things between you before you heard the magic…"
"Alright there David,
If you led a similar path before to your wife then I doubt it would be an issue for that you couldn't come to terms with.
I made a pact with myself what to me is acceptable in a fiancee' history…"
"David---this topic comes up now and again, and I'm going to tell you what I honestly believe, even though it might not be popular in our current cultural climate. Sex is like fire--contained within its proper boundaries, it's…"
"Yeah, so far as I know, Mexicans are rather Catholic and lean conservative, but I've seen the occasional Mexican hipster girl. If anything redeems the forlorn species of hipsters, that kind of girl will. But I digress. Your kids are going to be…"
"Shane, I opposed conservative to promiscuous, which is clever, if obvious. -- Everyone is a liberal in the picture. But when sex and drama start, liberalism disappears: it is useless. Shame is the word you are looking for when you talk of chastity…"
"I hope it's a good prize.
My girlfriend's family is Mexican, so no surprises there as far as religious affiliation goes. No moralizing other than some occasional mumbo-jumbo about how lonely and sad a world without God…"
"Conservatism is not used here in the political sense, but rather the vanilla flavored ice cream sense, do we need mint chocolate chip to live a flavor filled life? Nope. But, I like it.
That Alyssa does not try to persuade…"
"I agree, the man turned coward. But I do not agree that his conservatism was a problem, because I do not agree that her promiscuity was a good thing.
Had she been a happy woman, then Holden might have felt like her love or company or example would…"
"I agree, there is no character arch. But then, such is life. Which makes for poor story, but powerful example. We either learn, or not, from our experiences. Yet it is our experiences which make us who we are. Even if…"
"I had the same experience, i.e. little to no real guidance on manhood. My dad was the "adulthood is leaving joy behind and deadening your soul" type, which is what he did. He never seemed happy. Seeing that, I was NOT…"
"Working on my car(s). Nothing feels better than to rip apart a problem, and put it back together better than it was before. Plus, all your non-mechanically inclined friends will be awed. Downside: I always get to change the flat…"
"Sorry for your bad experience, but most people here are quite level-headed and thoughtful, especially the more senior members. There are even a few women here (Rebekah is a member in good standing). That being said, there are a…"
"When I was young, I strongly craved "man" status. No one gave me any indication how to achieve it, and I did not see a way I could invent it myself. And I did try.
Now that I have it, I imagine that other young men want the…"