Thank you so much for your comment of encouragement and wisdom. I took a couple of days off from AoM to put all the comments in perspective, and I decided to close the discussion. I will actually soon send a message to some of you to…"
"Stay strong my friend. I went through a veritable nightmare of a divorce a few years ago, lawyers financially destroyed me, but I didn't lose the most important things in my life, my kids. Life as a single father is difficult. Don't even…"
You're right, and of course I did read between the lines of your public comment. I know perfectly who you were referring to. Of course, I'm aware that I will have to take decisions by myself, and when that happens, I have to be…"
"As your emotions go up and down, Dario, there'll be times when that "devil's advocate" advice echoes in your mind. Do you want that to happen? It's going to be tough enough as it is. You might consider…"
":D That's a good one! :D
Ok, then: let's become millionaires.
Step 1) Go through her private messages
Step 2) Find her communication with someone she would for sure tell whether she had sex or not
Step 3) Look until you find a message when…"
"Dear Ken (if I may),
First of all, let me say that - while reading the comments to your post - I was positively surprised to learn that you are only 20. I'm a university professor, so I deal exactly with people of your age, and I can tell you…"
Stay strong my friend. I went through a veritable nightmare of a divorce a few years ago, lawyers financially destroyed me, but I didn't lose the most important things in my life, my kids. Life as a single father is difficult. Don't even think about divorce proceedings unless you're very serious. Things may be retrievable at this stage. No marriage is perfect and couples do work things out after worse things than this. Use rational thought and less emotion, difficult to do, but essential in my opinion. I sincerely hope that things work out well for you, John
As your emotions go up and down, Dario, there'll be times when that "devil's advocate" advice echoes in your mind. Do you want that to happen? It's going to be tough enough as it is. You might consider whether continuing to read words like "It's over" and "She's banging him" is going to be good for you (!). Just a thought. (I put this here because I'm not trying to start a fight on that thread, but I still wanted to say this.)
"Don't attack them for their faith. It does nothing but make them more and more against you. I found that I would have days where I would want nothing more to burn a church down, bash down religion. But it's their life, and you have yours.…"
Since losing the faith I find I have a difficult time maintaining close relationships with my parents and siblings who are strong believers. We don't fight, we all love each other, but there is a barrier that prevents anything too deep from happening. They are still faithfully waiting and expecting a prodigal son to return, so things seem to be a state of arrested development.I'd love to read about anybody's experience/success with bridging this divide in a healthy way, or of what potential…See More
"You're probably looking in the wrong place and at the wrong girls.
Ignore these idiots who say you "shouldn't judge" or whatever. You laid our your criteria and you know exactly what you want in a woman. Find her and hope you…"
""Silly" and "rigamarole" are hardly personal insults. Perhaps he does find your position silly. He was still respectful of the people supporting it, as far as I read.
I think you're trying to find an excuse to avoid his…"
"I agree that Faith without deeds is dead. God helps, but I have to work at it too. I don't think that praying out of money for your own ambitions that do not have God is good. For example I think its good to pray for success in Him through many…"
"Reread what he wrote. If he was interested in morals or values he'd be asking women about their beliefs and how they behave now, not whether they've ever had casual sex. This is about his own psychological and sexual hang-ups,…"