"I'd guess that the reason for this question of manhood is less your profession/interests, and more your lack of confidence in who you are. For example, you seemingly require your wife's input on the subject as the measurement of manhood.
"I have a 4 yr old. Soon to b 4. I don't know how to deal with anybody past this age, but with him I just do the things we both find to be fun. We go outside on adventures, launch rockets, colelct golf balls, spy on kids, make rocketships, throw…"
"i think your technique probably sucks.
i go with grain first pass, against second pass. I'm careful. Apply right pressure. Take my time.
Also using a brush to apply the proraso type cream has been great, with a simple disposable."