"I'd guess that the reason for this question of manhood is less your profession/interests, and more your lack of confidence in who you are. For example, you seemingly require your wife's input on the subject as the measurement of manhood.
"I have a 4 yr old. Soon to b 4. I don't know how to deal with anybody past this age, but with him I just do the things we both find to be fun. We go outside on adventures, launch rockets, colelct golf balls, spy on kids, make rocketships, throw…"
"For the umpteenth time: This is not the AoG. Even if it were this is an internet forum. It exists in part for the express purpose of giving folks a place to argue. You would do well to remember that.