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Lost in anger & negativity

Started this discussion. Last reply by JonEdanger Dec 27, 2013. 25 Replies

Hi everyone this is not a "feel sorry for me" article, instead this is a man asking for help with his challenges as a man, father & husband. I was like so many people before me brought up in an…Continue

What does it mean to be a man?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Kenneth A. Evanchuck Jan 30, 2013. 8 Replies

I am struggling at this point in my life to see what it is to be a man in the modern world.I was raised by my grandfather who was an  old school man, and I have picked up his way of looking at the…Continue

Hiya Chaps!

Started this discussion. Last reply by Niles Jan 24, 2013. 1 Reply

My name is Benjamin and I live in the county of Norfolk, England. I stumbled on this forum a week or so go whilst finding tips on how to shape my beard. Thought it was an excellent way to converse…Continue

 

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Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Again JonEdanger great advice, thank you. "
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Thank you everyone for all the responses, I didn't expect to get one. I have plenty of new thoughts to try and use to move this forward.  It has really made me feel better, just being on AOM and getting to hear your thoughts.  Thank…"
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Rick Shelton Thank you for your response, it was a pretty crap start in life but I have a good life now, minus the issues mentioned. I have already had anger management etc, the ironic thing is that  the person doing it made me angry! He…"
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Damn straight I smack the $*£$ out of that thing everyday!!! It does help on a short term basis when I am close to losing the plot all together. "
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"John  No its never to obvious, sometimes we need to hear things from others in order to fully absorb the information.  Everything you have said is true, and I hadn't considered things like my guitar as a way to support me through…"
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Richard thank you for this, its a really nice way of looking at things. Same as what JonEdanger said, its a choice I need to make. "
Dec 27, 2013
Benjamin Maxwell Rogers replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Thank you JonEdanger. You and everyone else have all made sense to me, it has denfinately helped me see that it isn't going to be hear with me forever.  I found out from my wife after a family member who I trust disclosed it to her one…"
Dec 27, 2013
Pale Horse replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
""Spare the rod, spoil the child."   I was a pretty well behaved kid because of my dad's belt.  He says that he gave me the butt-blistering of my life forcutting ip in church when I was four or so.  I only remember doing…"
Dec 27, 2013
Todd Serveto replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Here in Oklahoma, they actually had to pass a law to clarify what constitutes abuse as opposed to acceptable corporal punishment.  The lawmakers determined that parents can spank their kids--even use a paddle or a switch--but that they cannot…"
Dec 27, 2013
Rick Shelton replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"The sending the child to get a switch accomplished two things.  It allowed time for the child to think about the infraction and it allowed the parent time to cool down.  You really don't want to punish a child while angry."
Dec 27, 2013
Richard replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"ATTITUDE   The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.  Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.  It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than…"
Dec 27, 2013
N. Vest replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"To me the difference between harsh punishment and abuse is intent. Even punishments like a switch were meant to make a point not actually cause harm. The fact that you had to go out and cut the switch showed that the parent in question was in…"
Dec 27, 2013
Rick Shelton replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Benjamin, I am REALLY sorry you had to live through such a rough childhood, it just kills me to hear about things like what you portray; no child should have to live through that crap. I think you've made a good start but you…"
Dec 27, 2013
N. Vest replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"Mother was abusive physically/verbally but never put-in-the-hospital abusive. I hesitate to suggest that I had it that bad when I know there are those that had it much worse than me."
Dec 27, 2013
N. Vest replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"As some one who came from an semi-abusive home, some times you have to let the anger out. Workout, get a punching bag go on long walks/runs. Do something to work the the stress off. It will help a lot with keep the anger to a manageable level."
Dec 27, 2013
John replied to Benjamin Maxwell Rogers's discussion Lost in anger & negativity
"a few thoughts...not prescriptive but what I might do trying to imagine myself in your situation: first, i think reaching out to other friends is a big help. You have recognized that you need a support network out there. If you can also get some…"
Dec 27, 2013

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