I have a question as to how grown straight men show affection for each other. I'm 25 Years old, and I grew up in a very lonely household. I had no brothers, and my dad was always very cold. I was…Continue
"One of the aspects with showing affection to a male friend is the issue of touch. Whether to, or not. To hug, or not. The American culture, in particular, has trained men to have "their personal space." For many -- violate that, and you…"
"I don't think there is anything wrong with telling your friend you love him. I don't have a lot of friends, really only 3 and one of them is my brother. I have hugged my male friends and told one of them i loved him like a brother, was not…"
"One more about my uncle. . .
About a week or two before the bad news came down. . .
He called me and was looking for something. . . plans for a pipe welding job that he drew up a year or two before. I couldn't remember where they were at off…"
"Manly (straight) display of affection = one upmanship. A good ribbing. Light joking at a character flaw. My uncle (that I lost in December) used to give me shit about drinking watermelon gatorade.
My Uncle: "That pink shit you're drinking…"
"I am a woman and perhaps not the best-qualified to comment on this - sorry for barging in! We just say "best friends" "close friends" or "BFFs" but for some reason, the same relationship between men is called a…"
"As an only child I always had to relate to the guys around me with a lack of knowledge. Turns out I don't really have a problem doing that. I think a major thing to remember is to listen. Humans in general give off behavioral cues which I think…"
"LOL @ Shane.
Dude, your feelings are totally normal. You've got a man crush (read: non-sexual feelings of admiration) on your friend. Have you ever read Brett's article on the history of man friendships? To answer your…"
"Real men don't mind solid hugs when they have not seen each other in a while if they are chosen family. Give him a good handshake and pull him in for a hug if it appropriate. Other then that, I think the red scare removed…"
"As many have already said you have expressed to us exactly what you want to say.
So my advise would be always maintain your integrity, as this what defines us as men. If you want to show him this affection and you feel it is the right thing to do,…"
"Yea man, listen to your oneness. YOU know what you want to communicate to him, the only thing standing in your way is, ironically, YOU! Based on MY life experience, I suggest you stop thinking about it. Just let it take shape in…"
"Tell him exactly as written here, then sucker-punch him in the nuts. It will deflate the awkwardness and replace it with a growing urge to pummel you.
Drunken confessions are always good, too.
Just don't mention how the water…"
"Interesting stuff and germane to my own experience.
Went around and around a bit with a guy who I was seeing as an MFT counselor for a while. Great guy, several years older and had (somewhat) got caught up in what seems to be a kinda…"
"It is fasting. While we do change our diets, that is not the only aspect. We are also supposed to eat only what is required to sustain us, which is very minimal. Obviously if I am lifting, it will require more of a calorie intake,…"