Looking for some input/ suggestions... I know a guy, very wonderful guy (only child) who is 35 yrs old and still lives at home (claims hes never had the $ to leave cause he has to pay for everything…Continue
"This guy sounds like a he has a very nice personality. Unfortunately for you, the four folks you talk about all are living in their own special little worlds of crazy.
You simply can't help someone who doesn't want to help…"
""And what can anyone do to help him realize his relationship with his controlling....."
I am assuming you've told him to 'man-up' and move out of his mother's house. Between he and his wife they should have…"
"It does not take testicles, if he want to be free he needs to find a job away from his current location and move. Or simply tell his father to write and move out and not give his mom the phone number."
"I have to agree with Jack on this. You can't drag someone out of a situation they don't want to be in or can't see the exit for. I had a friend who refused to get over being shy to find a job. He got done with…"
"The only one with testicles who could help this guy, other than himself, would be his father. And his help would come in the form of a swift kick in the ass out the door.
But the fact he knows his son is married but has not told his own wife (the…"
"Be careful. You, despite your good intentions, might be viewed by either this man or his wife as meddling. And they would be right for them to think since you are.
The two of them have some serious issues. Him with his inability to grow up and take…"
"Thx Will! I believe that he does want to be free. Sometimes I wish I had testicles, maybe I could help him more! Im not much of a "woman" in the "traditional" sense. I should have been my fathers second son!"
"Ergo, my suggestions are:
* Listen to him
* Invite him to things w/ company of men. My two big venues are ManKind Project (which is all about men becoming stronger), and a fraternal order, where they're pretty un-self-consciously what…"
"@Will... This guy and his wife are both good friends of mine. I hear about it from both sides. I also agree that no one is "beyond saving".
I am only asking if anything can be done, and if so what/how? Theses two really belong together,…"
"What is your relationship to him?
How do you know this? Did he tell you? If so, then he already knows. Might trying active listening: drawing him out to talk more.
I don't think you should give up on him. Nobody is…"
Looking for some input/ suggestions... I know a guy, very wonderful guy (only child) who is 35 yrs old and still lives at home (claims hes never had the $ to leave cause he has to pay for everything mom wants or get a huge guilt trip/bitching at). He is afraid to stand up to his mother. He hides the fact that he drinks a few beers, dips, and most importantly has a wife!! Been married for over a year but still cant tell his mom... His father knows hes married and is cool with it. Neither will…See More
"Cool your jets, Kemosabe. Ghandi and I weren't calling you a coward. I don't know you. Or Ghandi, for that matter. Just pointing out that Ghandi's answer to imminent threats wasn't your honey-covered…"
"You know I'm not. But I am equating the violent deaths of many Iraqis with the invasion and war in Iraq. And this was our fault.
I'm going to stop here, because this is really another discussion, and nothing to do with the OP.…"
"Well, I wouldn't want to necessarily hold up Wilson as an example of a great president (or World War I as a "good" war, for that matter). In any case, I'd agree that great leaders seem to be in short supply these days."
"How are you equating songs about drug, sex, and rock-and-roll with beheadings and other atrocities? I don't get your mindset. And when did the West (particularly the US) support ISIS? I Googled it and got a few hits stating…"
"I agree with everything you say.
Yes, ISIS is looking for such negative things, just as Western reporting on the Middle East is relentlessly negative. Heard any good news stories from there lately? There are plenty, but violence, including…"