Looking for some input/ suggestions... I know a guy, very wonderful guy (only child) who is 35 yrs old and still lives at home (claims hes never had the $ to leave cause he has to pay for everything…Continue
"This guy sounds like a he has a very nice personality. Unfortunately for you, the four folks you talk about all are living in their own special little worlds of crazy.
You simply can't help someone who doesn't want to help…"
""And what can anyone do to help him realize his relationship with his controlling....."
I am assuming you've told him to 'man-up' and move out of his mother's house. Between he and his wife they should have…"
"It does not take testicles, if he want to be free he needs to find a job away from his current location and move. Or simply tell his father to write and move out and not give his mom the phone number."
"I have to agree with Jack on this. You can't drag someone out of a situation they don't want to be in or can't see the exit for. I had a friend who refused to get over being shy to find a job. He got done with…"
"The only one with testicles who could help this guy, other than himself, would be his father. And his help would come in the form of a swift kick in the ass out the door.
But the fact he knows his son is married but has not told his own wife (the…"
"Be careful. You, despite your good intentions, might be viewed by either this man or his wife as meddling. And they would be right for them to think since you are.
The two of them have some serious issues. Him with his inability to grow up and take…"
"Thx Will! I believe that he does want to be free. Sometimes I wish I had testicles, maybe I could help him more! Im not much of a "woman" in the "traditional" sense. I should have been my fathers second son!"
"Ergo, my suggestions are:
* Listen to him
* Invite him to things w/ company of men. My two big venues are ManKind Project (which is all about men becoming stronger), and a fraternal order, where they're pretty un-self-consciously what…"
"@Will... This guy and his wife are both good friends of mine. I hear about it from both sides. I also agree that no one is "beyond saving".
I am only asking if anything can be done, and if so what/how? Theses two really belong together,…"
"What is your relationship to him?
How do you know this? Did he tell you? If so, then he already knows. Might trying active listening: drawing him out to talk more.
I don't think you should give up on him. Nobody is…"
Looking for some input/ suggestions... I know a guy, very wonderful guy (only child) who is 35 yrs old and still lives at home (claims hes never had the $ to leave cause he has to pay for everything mom wants or get a huge guilt trip/bitching at). He is afraid to stand up to his mother. He hides the fact that he drinks a few beers, dips, and most importantly has a wife!! Been married for over a year but still cant tell his mom... His father knows hes married and is cool with it. Neither will…See More
Some family members from around Philly are encouraging me to take a job in the area. I have two concerns about it. First, it's working a call center, which I'm pretty sure is a dead-end career path. I currently work at a non-profit that specializes in child welfare. My current agency is a horribly mismanaged and hostile environment, but at least what I'm doing can springboard to program management/coordination elsewhere (though I haven't had any luck so far and I've been looking for almost a…See More
"ROK just seems like AoM with less integrity, more focused on getting laid and having a good time.
Meanwhile AoM seems to want to restore lost virtues and help men feel like better men without having to be sleazy I guess.
Different approaches on…"